{"id":10363,"date":"2016-03-06T08:05:03","date_gmt":"2016-03-06T07:05:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/03\/06\/kako-razumeti-zensko-med-prepirom\/"},"modified":"2016-03-06T08:05:03","modified_gmt":"2016-03-06T07:05:03","slug":"kako-razumeti-zensko-med-prepirom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/kako-razumeti-zensko-med-prepirom\/","title":{"rendered":"Kako razumeti \u017eensko med prepirom?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Ko opazujem pare, ki pridejo po nasvet kako bolje \u017eiveti v partnerski slogi, ju dostikrat opazujem, kako njun pogovor preraste v prepir. In ju gledam kako se premikata, opazujem njune kretnje, poglede, mimiko obraza. Vse to nekaj sporo\u010da.<\/span><\/p>\n<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/img-495150659-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/img-495150659-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/03\/img-495150659-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>foto:Thinkstock<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Mo\u0161ki obi\u010dajno povedo svoje argumente ter zakaj so nekaj naredili tako in tako. Ne postavljajo dosti podvpra\u0161anj ali \u00bbzakajev\u00ab. Po\u010dakajo na odgovor. \u017denske smo res bolj zapletene. Dejstvo. Pika. Dama v\u010dasih partnerja niti do konca ne poslu\u0161a, mu \u017ee sko\u010di v besedo in pove svoje misli, ki se v\u010dasih sploh ne skladajo s tistim, kar je gospod povedal. Vidim, da ga ni poslu\u0161ala v celoti oziroma je \u017ee me njegovim delom razlage pri sebi oblikovala hiter napad nazaj. Marsikatera informacija, ki je bila konstruktivno mi\u0161ljena s strani njenega mo\u0161kega, je enostavno ni sli\u0161ala, ker se je \u017ee vrtela v svojem filmu. Dame postavljajo mnogo ve\u010d podvpra\u0161anj. Ho\u010dejo vedeti zakaj. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Dame te\u017eko po to\u010dkah odgovorimo, ko je tematika \u010dustvene narave, ko smo prizadete in ko osebno vzamemo nekaj, kar je partner naredil ali se odlo\u010dil. Na\u0161 \u010dustveni svet podivja, ho\u010demo vse takoj in naenkrat povedat, dati iz sebe ven. In potem poslu\u0161am take stavke \u00bb\u2026da je bolj prav in da je \u0161e bolj prav\u00ab ali pa \u00bb\u2026zato, ker to tako\u2026\u00ab, sploh ni\u010d ne pove odgovor \u00bbne vem\u00ab in uporaba \u00bbampak\u00ab. In vse to je realna situacija, v kateri se dva naj bi odrasla in zrela \u010dloveka pomenila, kako razre\u0161evati nesoglasja.<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Trdim, da smo tako \u017eenske kot mo\u0161ki zelo \u010dustveni. Svoja ob\u010dutenja pa izra\u017eamo na razli\u010dne na\u010dine. Mo\u0161ki bolj zadr\u017eano izra\u017eajo ne\u017ena in ljubezenska \u010dustva in prej reagirajo nagonsko, jezno, se odlo\u010dijo prej za akcijo, ki bi prinesla neko olaj\u0161anje v obliki tak\u0161ne ali druga\u010dne odlo\u010ditve. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">\u017denske na drugi strani pa dosti krat \u00bbcincamo\u00ab, se obiramo v neki odlo\u010ditvi, tehtamo vse opcije, znamo kdaj provokativno kaj povedati ali vpra\u0161ati, da \u0161e pridobimo dolo\u010den \u010das, v katerem lahko oblikujemo nek odgovor. \u010custva damo hitreje na plano, ne razmi\u0161ljamo toliko o posledicah. Vsak ima svoj na\u010din \u010dustvovanja in s tem pa\u010d ni ni\u010d narobe.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Re\u0161itev: ko pride do prepira in ko je potrebno probleme in nesoglasja skomunicirati in eden drugemu povedati kaj nas mu\u010di in o \u010dem se ne strinjamo, se dajta vsaj toliko umiriti, da se dogovorita, da se o ne\u010dem pa\u010d ne strinjata. Kje pa pi\u0161e, da se dva razli\u010dna odrasla \u010dloveka morata o vsem strinjati in imeti enako videnje ne\u010desa, cilje, potrebe, prepri\u010danja? Nikjer. Zato pa imamo jezi\u010dke, pa mo\u017egane pa glasilke, da to prenesemo drugemu \u010dloveku in da se s\u010dasoma dose\u017ee nek konsenz, presek, kompromis. Tiste vsebine, ki vaju preve\u010d razdvajajo, pustita za nekaj hipov na strani pa se umirjeno dogovorita o tistih, kjer la\u017eje dose\u017eeta skupni dogovor. Ena kljukica je narejena. Napetost je popustila. S prijazno voljo se potem zopet lotita zadeve, ki vaju je dvignila v luft in v prepir. Sem prepri\u010dana, da se bosta o marsi\u010dem bolj umirjeno in prijazno pogovorila. Pomembno je, da vesta, da se bosta potrudila razumeti argumente eden drugega, \u010detudi se z njimi ne strinjata. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Seveda si je za zgoraj opisani \u00bbrecept\u00ab potrebno vzeti \u010das. Voljo, Energijo. Ljube\u010do naklonjenost. Kak\u0161en euro za ve\u010derjo v dvoje kasneje. No, a bo \u0161lo?<\/span><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Avtorica prispevka sem univerzitetna diplomirana socialna pedagoginja in diplomirana socialna delavka <\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\"><b>Melita Kuhar<\/b><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">, ki vodim projekt <\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\"><b>Svetovalnica<\/b><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">, <span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #333399;\"><a style=\"color: #333399; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.svetovalnica.si\">www.svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/span>, dosegljiva sem na tel.\u0161t. <\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\"><b>031 666 168<\/b><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">. \u010ce bi se radi naro\u010dili na individualno svetovanje ali me kaj povpra\u0161ali, pi\u0161ite na: <\/span><span style=\"text-decoration: underline; color: #333399;\"><a style=\"color: #333399; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"mailto:info@svetovalnica.si\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">info@svetovalnica.si<\/span><\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Arial, serif;\">Svetovalnico lahko spremljate tudi na Facebooku:\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\"><span style=\"color: #333399;\"><a style=\"color: #333399; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/Svetovalnica\">www.facebook.com\/Svetovalnica<\/a><\/span><\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n<hr \/>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Odgovor: nikakor. 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