{"id":11733,"date":"2015-09-02T09:41:58","date_gmt":"2015-09-02T08:41:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2015\/09\/02\/preverite-ste-odvisni-od-seksualnih-avantur\/"},"modified":"2016-04-01T15:25:59","modified_gmt":"2016-04-01T14:25:59","slug":"preverite-ste-odvisni-od-seksualnih-avantur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/preverite-ste-odvisni-od-seksualnih-avantur\/","title":{"rendered":"Preverite: Ste odvisni od seksualnih avantur?"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/img-78770200-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/img-78770200-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/11\/img-78770200-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>Tudi zaljubljenost je lahko odvisnost (Thinkstock)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2>Odvisnost<\/h2>\n<p>\u010ce postavimo trditev, da gre za neko vrsto odvisnosti, se sli\u0161i sme\u0161no. Vendar tak\u0161no obna\u0161anje ka\u017ee vse simptome odvisnosti. Kontrolira posameznika, po dalj\u0161em \u010dasu u\u017eivanja izgubi u\u010dinek in odvisnik rabi novo dozo. Ve\u010dina pravi, da se temu ne zna upreti in da je ob\u010dutek neopisljiv, temu se preprosto niso pripravljeni odre\u010di. O \u010dem sploh govorimo? Govorimo o ljubezni, o metulj\u010dkih v trebuhu, o migetanju, napetosti, ki se rojeva v telesu in preplavlja telo. O sladkem ob\u010dutku novega, neznanega, avanture. Ob\u010dutka, ko za\u010dutimo, da smo zagledani v nekoga in potem tako te\u017eko pri\u010dakujemo, kaj se bo zgodilo, ali se bo kaj, in ko se zgodi karkoli, pogled, dotik, nam po telesu zdivja elektrika ljubezni. Tisti, ki ne veste o \u010dem govorim, predstavljajte si va\u0161e pri\u010dakovanje Bo\u017ei\u010dka ali Dedka Mraza. To tiho napetost, ki se razra\u0161\u010da v telesu in nas dela prijetno zadete. Nekateri ljudje i\u0161\u010dejo te ob\u010dutke svoje celotno \u017eivljenje. Adrenalinski \u0161porti, droge in navsezadnje ljubezen. Zaljubljenost, da ne bo pomote.<\/p>\n<h2>Podalj\u0161ano otro\u0161tvo<\/h2>\n<p>\u010ce pogledamo na to skozi o\u010di odraslega, se nam mnogokrat zazdi, da je ravno odpoved in nezmo\u017enost tak\u0161nih ob\u010dutkov to, kar nas naredi \u201eodrasle\u201c. Ko si odrasel, se ne zaljubi\u0161 ve\u010d \u2013 si partnerja izbere\u0161. Ne verjame\u0161 ve\u010d v dobrotnike, ne pri\u010dakuje\u0161 daril. Ne ska\u010de\u0161 iz letal. Ne dovoli\u0161 si ve\u010d biti zadet, razen z alkoholom. Prevzame\u0161 odgovornost(i) in izgubi\u0161 vso mo\u017enost \u010dudenja in skrivnostnega. Da ne bomo za\u0161li na pota Malega Princa, mislim, da je bistvo jasno. Problem nastane ravno pri odvisnikih. Mlad srednje\u0161olski par u\u017eije dve leti nore ljubezni (pravzaprav dva tedna, ampak pustimo podrobnosti). Po odhodu na faks, zamenjavi okolja oba za\u010dneta spoznavati, da je svet vznemirljiv, da je ljudi neverjetno veliko in da se nekateri za njiju zanimajo. Spet spoznavata ob\u010dutke, ki sta jih u\u017eila tistih 14 dni. Vse normalno, skupaj se super ujameta, lahko bi \u017eivela skupaj naslednjih osemdeset let in imela kopico otrok. Ampak, eden izmed njiju je odvisnik. Ta ob\u010dutek novega ga pripelje do konca srednje\u0161olske idile.<\/p>\n<h2>Kaj storiti?<\/h2>\n<p>Kaj storiti, \u010de ste odvisnik od tak\u0161nih ob\u010dutkov, hkrati pa ste v resni zvezi, s katero ni prakti\u010dno ni\u010d narobe? Odrasli bi svetovali, da morate odrasti in se sprijazniti, da ne morete imeti vsega in da vse zbledi. Ampak to \u017ee veste in vam ni mar, naj zbledi, saj samo tako nastane mo\u017enost za nov fiks. Svobodomiselni bi dejali, u\u017eivaj dokler se da. Izkoristi, dokler \u0161e lahko \u010duti\u0161 tak\u0161na mo\u010dna \u010dustva. Kristjani bi vse naprtili hudi\u010devim sku\u0161njavam. Noben nasvet ni uporaben in nobeden ne velja. \u010ce si v tak\u0161ni situaciji, ki je vedno edinstvena zmes, se mora\u0161 sam odlo\u010diti in odlo\u010ditvi sta predvsem dve, obe sta skrajni in te\u017eki, ampak le tako boste zvesti do sebe. Prva mo\u017enost je, da svoje \u017eelje delite s partnerjem in se o tem z njim pogovorite. Torej ste odkriti in i\u0161\u010dete pot resnice. Ste iskreni do svoji \u010dustev, do va\u0161ega partnerja in tako boste imeli \u010disto vest, \u010de jo posedujete. Sicer s tem ne boste ni\u010d re\u0161ili, ampak je pa dober za\u010detek, za\u010detek konca zveze in za\u010detek nove avanture ali za\u010detek redifinicije sedanje zveze. Druga mo\u017enost je, da ste zvesti laganju. La\u017eete svetu, partnerju in ska\u010dete iz avanture v avanturo. Varate, skrivate, ker no\u010dete prizadeti partnerja ali ker vam bi razkritje resnice ote\u017eko\u010dilo \u017eivljenje. Razlogi sploh niso va\u017eni, gre samo za to, da morate biti dovolj mo\u010dni (nekateri bi rekli pokvarjeni), da lahko la\u017eete do groba, brez da bi to vplivalo na va\u0161 odnos do sebe in do partnerja. Vse vmesne opcije so slab\u0161e. Mnogo ljudi si ne predstavlja, da bi lagalo svojemu partnerju, vendar je to veliko te\u017eje kot zgleda. Resnica ima neprijetno lastnost, da je bole\u010da in groba. Kako torej re\u0161iti problem zasvojenosti? Lahko jo sprejmemo in miniziramo \u0161kodljive u\u010dinke (torej la\u017eemo) ali jo zavrnemo in potla\u010dimo del svoje osebnosti na podlagi na\u010del. Odlo\u010ditev je va\u0161a.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ne more\u0161 \u017eiveti brez vznemirjenja, ki ga s seboj prinese nova \u017eenska? Te\u017eko obstane\u0161 v trdni zvezi? Mora\u0161 varati? Morda si odvisnik od avantur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1091],"tags":[2548],"source":[1518,1530,1529],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Preverite: Ste odvisni od seksualnih avantur? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/preverite-ste-odvisni-od-seksualnih-avantur\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Preverite: Ste odvisni od seksualnih avantur? - Hudo Slovenija\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Ne more\u0161 \u017eiveti brez vznemirjenja, ki ga s seboj prinese nova \u017eenska? 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