{"id":11887,"date":"2016-03-01T06:00:56","date_gmt":"2016-03-01T05:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/03\/01\/se-sploh-pogovarjata-o-vajinem-seksu\/"},"modified":"2016-03-01T06:00:56","modified_gmt":"2016-03-01T05:00:56","slug":"se-sploh-pogovarjata-o-vajinem-seksu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/se-sploh-pogovarjata-o-vajinem-seksu\/","title":{"rendered":"Se sploh pogovarjata o vajinem seksu?"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2012\/03\/0028_011-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2012\/03\/0028_011-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2012\/03\/0028_011-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>O spolnosti \u0161e vedno \u0161epetamo in se ob tem hihitamo. Na\u0161 vir informacij pa pogosto niso star\u0161i. (jlp)<br \/>\n<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Najbolj zanesljiv na\u010din, da s partnerjem dose\u017eeta <strong>spolnost<\/strong>, ki bo zadovoljevala oba, je, da se o tem odkrito pogovarjata in izra\u017eata svoje \u017eelje in potrebe. To pa ni vedno tako enostavno, kot se sli\u0161i. Zakaj se tako te\u017eko izra\u017eamo v <strong>spolnosti<\/strong>?<\/p>\n<h2>Te\u017eave z izra\u017eanjem v spolnosti<\/h2>\n<p>Izra\u017eanje v <strong>spolnosti<\/strong> je \u0161e vedno ena izmed pogostej\u0161ih te\u017eav, iz katere izvirajo mnoge druge. Marsikomu se zdi ideja o <strong>govorjenju o spolnosti<\/strong> \u0161e vedno precej abstraktna. Ljudje se obremenjujejo z velikostjo in z (ne)poznavanjem pravih tehnik. Pozabijo pa na komuniciranje. Ko <strong>govorimo o spolnosti<\/strong>, pa tudi \u010de z osebo, s katero delimo najbolj intimne trenutke, smo ve\u010dkrat okorni, nespretni in predvsem smo nesposobni jasnega izra\u017eanja svojih \u017eelja. Te\u017eave z izra\u017eanjem v <strong>spolnosti<\/strong> pa nastopijo seveda \u017ee mnogo prej- pri komuniciranju med star\u0161i in otroki. Le redki star\u0161i prerastejo fazo pti\u010dkov in \u010debelic. Komunikacija med partnerjema je tudi pogosto taka, kot je komunikacija med star\u0161i in otroki o tej isti temi- ali je ni, ali pa je zelo nerodna, neprimerna in naredi ve\u010d \u0161kode, kot koristi. Le pe\u0161\u010dica je takih, ki so uspeli \u010dlove\u0161ko sposobnost komuniciranja uporabiti pri izra\u017eanju ne\u010desa tako naravnega kot je \u010dlove\u0161ka <strong>spolnost<\/strong>. Sposobnost komuniciranja smo raje uporabili za zatiranje <strong>spolnosti<\/strong>. Delno <strong>spolnost<\/strong> ostaja del dru\u017ebe in javnega s priro\u010dniki, filmi itd. Priro\u010dniki in filmi ne morejo v celoti nadomestiti iskrene in odkrite komunikacije. Tudi pornografske filme bi gledali druga\u010de, \u010de bi bilo na\u0161e izhodi\u0161\u010dno razmi\u0161ljanje druga\u010dno.<\/p>\n<h2>(Ne)vzgajanje v spolnosti<\/h2>\n<p>V (in o) <strong>spolnosti<\/strong> nismo navajeni govoriti, oziroma se na kak drug na\u010din izra\u017eati, saj je ve\u010dina odrasla s prepri\u010danji, da je <strong>seksanje<\/strong> nekaj tako naravnega, da ko se zgodi enostavno ve\u0161 kako in kaj in so vse besede odve\u010d. Naravnost <strong>spolnosti<\/strong> pa ne bi smela biti izgovor, da se o tem ne govori. <strong>Seks<\/strong> je res nekaj naravnega, ampak ravno to je razlog, da bi se moralo o tem tudi govoriti na tak na\u010din in ne obratno- ga skrivati in o njem ne govoriti. S tem, ko o <strong>seksu<\/strong> ne govorimo, sporo\u010damo, da je z njim nekaj narobe. \u010ce s <strong>seksom<\/strong> ni ni\u010d narobe, zakaj ne moremo o njem govoriti? Zaradi prepri\u010danja, da o <strong>spolnosti<\/strong> ni potrebno izgubljati besed, saj je nekaj naravnega, postane <strong>spolnost<\/strong> nekaj zelo kompleksnega in potrebuje navodila, ki bi sicer morala biti podana spontano, naravno, mimogrede. \u017de res, da nas v <strong>spolnosti<\/strong> vodijo tudi nagoni. Ampak ljudje smo (na \u017ealost ali veselje?) bolj kompleksna bitja. Ljudje svoje nagone nadziramo, ker se jih bojimo; bojimo se jih zato, ker jih ne razumemo; ne razumemo jih, ker se o njih ne pogovarjamo. Nagonom smo zato raje nadeli pravila lepega obna\u0161anja. Eno od teh pravil je, da se o tem ne govori. No, vsaj spodobni ljudje tega ne po\u010dnejo. O <strong>seksu<\/strong> se pogovarjajo le perverzni. Perverznost je nekaj slabega, ergo je slab tudi <strong>seks<\/strong>. Nerealno je torej pri\u010dakovanje, da bo \u010dlovek uspel zbuditi v sebi zdrav nagon, \u010de mu je ta predstavljen kot nekaj gre\u0161nega. Te nerealne predstave, s katerimi odrastemo, lahko vodijo v frustracije in jezo.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Tudi najbolj\u0161i priro\u010dnik o dobrem seksu ne more nadomestiti iskrene komunikacije.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1092],"tags":[2547,1400,1689,2072],"source":[1364,1387,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Se sploh pogovarjata o vajinem seksu? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/se-sploh-pogovarjata-o-vajinem-seksu\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Se sploh pogovarjata o vajinem seksu? 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