{"id":11939,"date":"2016-02-26T05:42:18","date_gmt":"2016-02-26T04:42:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/02\/26\/zakaj-vztrajamo-v-zvezah-ki-so-obsojene-na-propad\/"},"modified":"2016-02-26T05:42:18","modified_gmt":"2016-02-26T04:42:18","slug":"zakaj-vztrajamo-v-zvezah-ki-so-obsojene-na-propad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/aktualno\/mnenja\/zakaj-vztrajamo-v-zvezah-ki-so-obsojene-na-propad\/","title":{"rendered":"Zakaj vztrajamo v zvezah, ki so obsojene na propad?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2014\/05\/img-479575415-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2014\/05\/img-479575415-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2014\/05\/img-479575415-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>Foto: Thinkstock<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Tokrat mi je dala misliti zgodba znanca. \u010ce strnem, gre nekako takole. Fant spozna dekle in se zaljubita. Ker jo je imel\/jo ima rad, je bil za njo pripravljen celo pustiti za sabo \u017eivljenje, ki ga je poznal, in se preseliti z njo na drug konec sveta. Pa to ni bilo dovolj. Ko je pri\u0161el za njo, se je ona spet odselila drugam. Sledil ji je in znova se je umaknila. Dobesedno be\u017eala je pred njim. Vmes sta sicer zvezo prekinila, menda ga je celo varala, torej vsi znaki ka\u017eejo na to, da zgodba ne bo imela\/nima sre\u010dnega konca.<\/p>\n<p>Vsi okrog njega vidijo, kako trpi, vidijo, kako bi za njo naredil vse, ona pa to izkori\u0161\u010da in se igra z njim. Fant je zaljubljen in slep, le kdo ni bil vsaj enkrat v \u017eivljenju v njegovih \u010devljih. Verjetno se globoko v sebi tudi sam zaveda, da stvar nima prihodnosti, vendar si tega no\u010de priznati. Ima jo rad in no\u010de obupati. Toda v\u010dasih je to \u0161e slab\u0161e. Ne samo, da s tem, ko se nekoga tako zelo oklepamo, ga du\u0161imo in posredno \u0161e bolj odrivamo stran, problem je tudi v tem, da izgubimo njegovo spo\u0161tovanje, spo\u0161tovanje ljudi okrog sebe in kar je najslab\u0161e, izgubimo spo\u0161tovanje do sebe. Pozabimo na to, da si zaslu\u017eimo ve\u010d kot to, da smo vredni popolne, iskrene ljubezni, ne pa polovi\u010darstva.<\/p>\n<p>S tem, ko vztrajamo v zvezi, za katero globoko v sebi vemo, da ne pelje nikamor, in roko na srce, to v resnici vemo, vendar si ne upamo priznati, \u0161kodujemo sebi. Ker ignoriramo vse znake, ki nas opozarjajo, da je \u010das, da gremo naprej, ne poslu\u0161amo svojih bli\u017enjih, ki nam sku\u0161ajo to dopovedati, tratimo svoj dragoceni \u010das, svojo energijo. \u010cas in energijo, ki bi ju lahko usmerili v veliko bolj pozitivne stvari, \u010de ne drugega, bi se lahko odprli za novo, sve\u017eo energijo, nova poznanstva, morda celo novega potencialnega partnerja. Tako pa, kot &#8220;fijakarski konj&#8221;, ne gledamo ne levo, ne desno, in samo gonimo naprej svoje. V\u010dasih se zdi, kot da bi se namenoma tako trpin\u010dili, kot da si no\u010demo pomagati, kot da u\u017eivamo v vlogi &#8220;mu\u010denika&#8221; ali celo &#8220;\u017ertve&#8221; \u010de ho\u010dete. Najla\u017eje se je smiliti sam sebi, obstati na mestu in \u010dakati \u010dude\u017e, ki nas bo odre\u0161il. Najla\u017eje je igrati nedol\u017eno \u017ertev, ki se vsem smili, in veliko te\u017eje je stvari vzeti v svoje roke, se zavestno odlo\u010diti, da je \u010das, da se stvari spremenijo. Ampak to lahko naredi le vsak sam. Nih\u010de tega ne more narediti namesto njega. In zakaj tega ne naredimo? Ker nas je strah neznanega, negotovosti. Ta fant je navajen tega, da je z njo, da ima punco, da ni sam. \u010ceprav je v resnici sam. Strah ga je, kaj se bo zgodilo, ko bo brez nje. Kako bo na\u0161el novo punco. Toda ta strah je brez pomena. \u017divljenje gre \u00a0naprej in nobene zamujene prilo\u017enosti, trenutka, ki je minil, ne bomo ve\u010d dobili nazaj. Ne moremo pustiti, da gredo stvari mimo nas, mi pa jih samo opazujemo, ker nas je strah. \u017divljenje je preve\u010d kratko in minljivo, da bi si lahko privo\u0161\u010dili kaj takega. Da bi si lahko privo\u0161\u010dili, da vztrajamo v zvezah, ki so obsojene na propad!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mar ni \u017eivljenje preve\u010d kratko in minljivo, da bi si lahko privo\u0161\u010dili vztrajati v slabih zvezah?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1605],"tags":[2437,1400,1689,1473],"source":[2582,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Zakaj vztrajamo v zvezah, ki so obsojene na propad? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/aktualno\/mnenja\/zakaj-vztrajamo-v-zvezah-ki-so-obsojene-na-propad\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Zakaj vztrajamo v zvezah, ki so obsojene na propad? 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