{"id":11981,"date":"2016-02-22T06:05:00","date_gmt":"2016-02-22T05:05:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/02\/22\/ali-je-tudi-custveno-varanje-varanje\/"},"modified":"2016-02-22T06:05:00","modified_gmt":"2016-02-22T05:05:00","slug":"ali-je-tudi-custveno-varanje-varanje","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ali-je-tudi-custveno-varanje-varanje\/","title":{"rendered":"Ali je tudi \u010dustveno varanje varanje?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Kdaj smo nezvesti?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

V definicijo \u010dustvenega varanja spada \u0161irok nabor dejanj, \u010de misel opi\u0161emo kot dejanje. Te\u017eje je definirati samo varanje. Za nekatere je vedno odvisno od konteksta, za nekatere je to \u010drno \u2013 bela zadeva. Pri teh je stvar zelo jasna, si ga vtaknil ali ga nisi, si jo poljubil ali je nisi. \u010ce je varanje fizi\u010dno, je krivda lahko dokazljiva, \u010detudi si se res spotaknil in padel naravnost v njeno naro\u010dje. \u010crno-bel tip osebe ne zanima, kak\u0161ni so bili motivi, ali si si res \u017eelel, ali si bil \u017ealosten, pijan, karkoli. Varanje je nesprejemljivo, za vsa svoja stanja si kriv sam in nosi\u0161 posledice.<\/p>\n

Drugi vse pove\u017eejo s kontekstom. Varanje ne \u0161teje, \u010de si v tujini. \u010ce si pijan in je bilo samo enkrat, \u010de ti ni ni\u010d pomenila, \u010de je \u0161lo samo za seks. Tukaj smo zapisali pomemben stavek. Varanje ni varanje, \u010de je \u0161lo samo za seks. Torej seks ni bistvena komponenta varanja. Pri ljudeh, ki moralne odlo\u010ditve povezujejo s situacijo, se pribli\u017eamo pojmu \u010dustvenega varanja. Smo \u017ee v sivini. Kaj je tisto, kar partner ne sme narediti, kaj ga dejansko naredi nezvestega in to ni dejanje spolnega odnosa?<\/p>\n

\"Ali<\/a><\/p>\n

La\u017e je bistvo prevare
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Eden od mo\u017enih odgovorov je la\u017e. Vsaka zveza temelji na nekih skritih predpostavkah in pojmovanjih ljubezni. Ker si se odlo\u010dil, da bo\u0161 z nekom v zvezi, se upravi\u010deno domneva, da si se odrekel vsem drugim mo\u017enim partnerjem. \u010ce poka\u017ee\u0161 interes za druge partnerje, prekr\u0161i\u0161 pravilo. Ne sprejema\u0161 ve\u010d predpostavke zveze. \u010ce se s tem strinjata oba partnerja, ostaneta dve mo\u017enosti. Ali na novo definirata status svoje zveze in izklju\u010dita ekskluzivno pravico drug do drugega ali se razideta. Zgodi se tudi, da eden od partnerjev la\u017ee \u017ee na za\u010detku, ko vstopi v zvezo, ker se ne zaveda pasti in pomena zveze, ker je neizku\u0161en, neumen ali dvoli\u010den. Zato je dobro vedeti, kako tvoj partner pojmuje zvezo in kaj ta za njega vklju\u010duje. Kajti la\u017e je ultimativna prevara, je bistvo prevare!<\/p>\n

\"Ali<\/a><\/p>\n

Sofisti\u010dni izhodi<\/strong><\/h2>\n

\u00bbDraga, ljubim te. Ampak saj razume\u0161, na svetu so milijarde ljudi. Ne moreva pri\u010dakovati, da sva idealen par. Zato je jasno, da \u010de kdorkoli od naju sre\u010da svojo sorodno du\u0161o, da greva narazen\u00ab<\/em><\/p>\n

\u00bbDragi, pojdi v k…..\u00ab<\/em><\/p>\n

Tak\u0161nega odgovora od \u017eenske ponavadi ni, ampak pogovor te\u010de naprej v liberalnem stilu. \u017denske so tako rade liberalne, tako rade razumejo, mo\u0161ki pa so tako ponosni na svoje \u017eenske, ki kon\u010dno razmi\u0161ljajo kot mo\u0161ki. Vendar bi morala vsaka pametna \u017eenska poslati svojega, nedvomno izredno pametnega, mo\u0161kega v k…. in obratno. Tukaj gre za edinstveno \u010dustveno varanje. Zgornjo izjavo lako izre\u010de samo nekdo, ki nima poguma ne mo\u010di. Ne more\u0161 planirati \u017eivljenja v dvoje na predpostavki, da slu\u010daj ne bo posegel vmes (ali \u010de verjamete\u00a0 v tak\u0161ne stvari \u2013usoda, Bog, itd). \u017divljenje lahko na\u010drtuje\u0161 samo na odlo\u010ditvi, da bo\u0161 z nekom \u017eivel v dvoje, ne glede na slu\u010daj. \u010cetudi ti naklju\u010dje pripelje mimo tvoj ideal, ga mora\u0161 zavrnit, \u010de si mo\u017e oziroma \u017eena beseda. V\u010dasih je bila poroka tista, ki je vezala, sama institucija poroke. Ker se ljudje ve\u010d ne poro\u010dajo, vidimo ve\u010dino zvez stati na odlo\u010ditvi, da bo\u0161 z nekom do konca \u017eivljenja. Vendar ta odlo\u010ditev ne more vklju\u010devati premise naklju\u010dja. Za to odlo\u010ditvijo mora stati \u010dlovek, ki jo bo tudi prenesel, prenesel pa jo bo, \u010de se bo zanjo trudil.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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