{"id":12189,"date":"2016-02-03T07:45:00","date_gmt":"2016-02-03T06:45:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/02\/03\/zakaj-nas-privlacijo-ze-oddani\/"},"modified":"2016-02-03T07:45:00","modified_gmt":"2016-02-03T06:45:00","slug":"zakaj-nas-privlacijo-ze-oddani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/zakaj-nas-privlacijo-ze-oddani\/","title":{"rendered":"Zakaj nas privla\u010dijo \u017ee oddani?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Ve\u010dkrat sli\u0161imo trditev: \u00bbVsi dobri mo\u0161ki so oddani.\u00ab To trditev lahko tudi obrnemo: \u00bbVsi oddani mo\u0161ki so dobri\u00ab, kar spremeni poudarek in pomeni pribli\u017eno nekaj takega kot \u00bbsosedova trava je vedno bolj zelena.\u00ab<\/p>\n

Se vam je \u017ee zgodilo, da ste \u0161le ven z zasedeno kolegico, ki so jo mo\u0161ki obletavali z vseh strani, vas pa, kot da ni zraven? \u017de mogo\u010de, da ima bolj privla\u010dne feromone, kraj\u0161e krilo in iskrice v o\u010deh. Morda pa je za tem tudi kaj drugega. Da spet obrnemo zorni kot: Se vam je \u017ee zgodilo, da vas mesece ni nih\u010de povohal, ko pa kon\u010dno najdete nekoga, se jih od nikoder prika\u017ee \u0161e pet? To se dogaja ves \u010das, tako mo\u0161kim kot \u017eenskam. Neki sre\u010dno zasedeni mo\u0161ki, ki je z novo partnerko dobil tudi gru\u010dico obo\u017eevalk, je potarnal: \u00bbVsi dobri mo\u0161ki so zasedeni \u2013 ko nisem imel punce, nisem bil zaseden, mar ne?\u00ab<\/p>\n

Kaj so razlogi, da nas izmed vseh dobrih mo\u0161kih\/\u017eensk pogosto privla\u010dijo ravno tisti, ki so \u017ee oddani?<\/p>\n

Hrepenenje dvigne nivo dopamina<\/h2>\n

Bolj ko je nekaj nedosegljivo, bolj je hrepenenje mo\u010dno. Zasedeni lepotec ali lepotica sta ponavadi bolj ali manj nedosegljiva, zato po njiju hrepenimo, za prijaznega soseda, ki se okoli nas trudi \u017ee nekaj let, pa nam je bolj ali manj vseeno. Ko po ne\u010dem hrepenimo, se dvigne raven dopamina v mo\u017eganih, kar spro\u017ea prijetne ob\u010dutke. Po tujem partnerju lahko hrepenimo, saj je precej manj mo\u017enosti, da se nam bo vrgel pred noge s \u0161opom vrtnic. Velja pa omeniti tudi to, da posameznik, ki ve\u010d seksa, oddaja ve\u010d hormonov, ki privla\u010dijo nasprotni spol. In obi\u010dajno ve\u010d seksajo tisti, ki so v zvezi. Tudi tokrat lahko torej vsaj delno okrivimo kemijo.<\/p>\n

Varen flirt<\/h2>\n

Na resno zvezo, v\u010dasih celo na prilo\u017enostni seks, iz dolo\u010denega (\u010dustvenega) razloga \u0161e nismo pripravljeni, hormoni pa nam vseeno divjajo. Zato bi radi bili v stiku s privla\u010dnimi ljudmi, radi bi bili za\u017eeleni, radi bi se po\u010dutili \u017eive. Kaj je bolj\u0161ega kot varen flirt? Utrip se pove\u010da, \u010dutimo metulj\u010dke, nekomu smo malce v\u0161e\u010d \u2013 ah, kak\u0161no olaj\u0161anje, ni se treba spu\u0161\u010dati v bolj zapletene odnose, samo kompliment tu in nasmeh tam. Tudi \u010de pride do bolj intimnih odnosov, nekako ne verjamemo \u2013 in si obi\u010dajno ne \u017eelimo \u2013 da bi na\u0161 objekt po\u017eelenja zapustil varno gnezdo svojega razmerja.<\/p>\n

Igre ega<\/h2>\n

Pri \u017eelji po tujem partnerju gre lahko tudi za nezavedne igre ega: osvojiti nekoga, ki je domnevno \u017ee oddal svoje srce, je lahko izziv, v katerem se ho\u010demo dokazati samim sebi, ali \u0161e huje, drugim, v skrajnem primeru pa gre za nekak\u0161no \u017eeljo po ma\u0161\u010devanju (ker smo bili sami prevarani, ker smo iz dru\u017eine, kjer je bil eden od star\u0161ev nezvest, ker se nam je zameril partner na\u0161ega domnevnega objekta po\u017eelenja).<\/p>\n

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Pred-odobreni partner<\/h2>\n

Neka raziskava je pokazala, da \u017eenske prepoznajo kot privla\u010dnej\u0161e tiste mo\u0161ke, ki se zdijo privla\u010dni tudi drugim \u017eenskam. Mnoge \u017eivalske vrste poznajo podoben pojav \u2013 mate-copying. Mo\u0161ki, ki ga je preverila in morda celo malce \u00bbudoma\u010dila\u00ab \u017ee neka \u017eenska pred nami, je vsekakor bolj u\u017eiten. Tej paritveni strategiji se pridru\u017ei \u0161e vidik, ki mu lahko re\u010demo ekonomski: bolj ko se nekaj ka\u017ee kot za\u017eeleno, ve\u010djo vrednost to ima v o\u010deh drugih \u2013 dobimo za\u010darani krog.<\/p>\n

Samozavest proti obupanosti<\/h2>\n

Morda najbolj verjeten razlog se zdi ta, da imajo ljudje, ki vedo, da si jih nekdo \u017eeli, jih sprejema take, kot so in jih ljubi, precej ve\u010d samozavesti kot tisti, ki tega zagotovila nimajo. Za samozavest pa vemo, da je eden glavnih faktorjev privla\u010dnosti. Sploh, \u010de pomislimo na njeno nasprotje \u2013 te\u017eko je verjeti, da nas bo privla\u010dil nekdo, ki daje videz obupanosti in tako reko\u010d moleduje za na\u0161o pozornost. Mislimo si, da mora s takim \u010dlovekom nekaj \u017ee biti narobe, \u010de ga nih\u010de no\u010de. Ko pa ta \u00bbobupani\u00ab \u010dlovek najde nekoga, ki ga ho\u010de, je kar naenkrat bolj miren, samozavesten in \u2013 glej ga zlomka \u2013 nekako bolj privla\u010den\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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