{"id":12197,"date":"2016-02-02T06:29:30","date_gmt":"2016-02-02T05:29:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/02\/02\/z-danasnjimi-moskimi-imamo-en-velik-problem\/"},"modified":"2016-02-02T06:29:30","modified_gmt":"2016-02-02T05:29:30","slug":"z-danasnjimi-moskimi-imamo-en-velik-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/aktualno\/mnenja\/z-danasnjimi-moskimi-imamo-en-velik-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"Z dana\u0161njimi mo\u0161kimi imamo en velik problem!"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2014\/03\/img-175113804-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2014\/03\/img-175113804-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2014\/03\/img-175113804-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>Foto: Thinkstock<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Ta tema je v resnici problem! \u017denske, ki smo odra\u0161\u010dale ob zgodbah, kako so se na\u0161i star\u0161i spoznali v svojih zgodnjih 20.ih, za\u010deli hoditi v kino in na sok smetano, potem pa se poro\u010dili in si ustvarili dru\u017eino, imamo izoblikovano pri\u010dakovanje, da bo tako tudi z nami. Pri\u010dakujemo, da bomo tudi me v svojih dvajsetih spoznale simpati\u010dnega \u00a0fanta, ki bo izpolnil vsa na\u0161a pri\u010dakovanja glede tega, kak\u0161en mora biti na\u0161 potencialni mo\u017e, in potem se bo tudi na\u0161a zgodba podobno odvila. No, tukaj pa se zatakne! Kar naenkrat si stara 30 let in mo\u0161kih ter zvezah dolgoro\u010dne ne vidi\u0161 potenciala.<\/p>\n<h2>&#8220;\u017denska bo \u017ee po\u010dakala&#8221;<\/h2>\n<p>Dana\u0161nji mo\u0161ki niso ve\u010d taki, da bi v trgovini pristopili k neznanki in jo povabili na sok s smetano. Dana\u0161nji fantje niso ve\u010d taki, da bi se \u017eeleli ustaliti, ko najdejo pravo zase. Dana\u0161nji fantje so mamini sin\u010dki! Kot prvo, so se blazno obesili na \u017eensko emancipacijo in jo po\u0161teno izkori\u0161\u010dajo. Njihovo prepri\u010danje je, da se jim za \u017eensko ni ve\u010d treba potruditi. Menijo, da zakaj bi oni naredili prvi korak, \u010de ga lahko \u017eenska. To je prva napaka. Druga napaka je, da dajejo vse preve\u010d poudarka svoji zabavi, svojih u\u017eitkom, svojim hobijem, svojim prijateljem. Vse to pride pred \u017eensko. \u017denska bo \u017ee po\u010dakala, saj moram danes na tenis, jutri smo s prijatelji dogovorjeni, da gremo \u017eurat, pojutri\u0161njem gledamo fantje nogomet na televiziji. Pa da ne bo pomote, partnerja morata po\u010deti stvari tudi sama zase, s svojimi prijatelji, vendar to ne bi smelo imeti prednost pred tem, kar sta, kar po\u010dneta skupaj.<\/p>\n<p>Drugi problem je, da so razvajeni. \u017divijo v hotelu mama, kjer jim je tam tako v\u0161e\u010d, seveda ker mama postori vse namesto njih, da ga prakti\u010dno ne nameravajo zapustiti. Zakaj bi se vezal, zapletal z dekletom, se z njo preselil na svoje, kjer bom moral dejansko kaj postoriti, \u010de pa je tukaj pri mami \u017ee vse postorjeno. Dana\u0161nji fantje so radi &#8220;na komot&#8221;. Poleg tega pa dekletova kuha zagotovo ni tako dobra kot mamina, kar je \u0161e dodaten razlog, zakaj je nesmiselno &#8220;odleteti iz gnezda&#8221;. In prav ta razvajenost in nedorastlost odraslemu \u017eivljenju in vsemu, kar pride z njim, se ka\u017ee tudi na njihovem karakterju, obna\u0161anju. Dana\u0161nji fantje niso pripravljeni na kompromise, na odrekanje, na to, da se je treba v\u010dasih prilagoditi, marsikdaj stisniti zobe in iti \u010dez te\u017eavo. In prav zato se zveze dolgoro\u010dno ne obnesejo. Pa ne samo zveze, celo zakoni. Nih\u010de ve\u010d ni pripravljen kdaj pa kdaj tudi potrpeti.<\/p>\n<h2>Tudi \u017eenske smo se spremenile!<\/h2>\n<p>Partner mora biti dorasel. Mora biti dorasel temu, da je pripravljen za svojo \u017eensko marsikaj narediti, tudi marsikaj potrpeti. Mora biti dorasel obveznostim, ki pridejo z zvezo, s skupnim \u017eivljenjem. Jaz si v prvi fazi \u017eelim mo\u0161kega, ki bo moj partner, moja opora, moj enakovredni \u010dlan te zveze, ne pa otroka, za katerega bom morala skrbeti in se samo jaz odrekati stvarem, marsikdaj kaj grenkega pogoltniti, samo zato, da bi ostala skupaj. \u017denske pri dana\u0161njih mo\u0161kih pogre\u0161amo varnost, to, da se lahko na njih zanesemo. Manjka nam ob\u010dutek, da tudi \u010de se svet okrog nas podere, bo tam \u0161e vedno na\u0161 partner, s katerim bomo to skupaj prebrodile. V dobrem in slabem torej, kar pa je v dana\u0161njih \u010dasih izgubilo svoj pravi pomen, svojo pravo vrednost. To je velik problem! Pa da ne bo pomote, tudi \u017eenske smo danes druga\u010dne, kot so bile na\u0161e mame, tudi me smo se spremenile, v veliko pogledih na slab\u0161e, in tudi me imamo pomanjkljivosti, zaradi katerih zveze dolgoro\u010dno ne uspevajo. 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