{"id":12539,"date":"2016-12-31T06:00:31","date_gmt":"2016-12-31T05:00:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/01\/05\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/"},"modified":"2017-01-10T08:45:18","modified_gmt":"2017-01-10T07:45:18","slug":"ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/","title":{"rendered":"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni?"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2016\/01\/thinkstockphotos-78775051-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2016\/01\/thinkstockphotos-78775051-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2016\/01\/thinkstockphotos-78775051-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>Foto: Thinkstock<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"plain\">Razlogov je veliko. Zaradi otrok, iz strahu pred osamljenostjo, dru\u017ebene stigme, pomanjkanja odlo\u010dnosti, finan\u010dne odvisnosti, skupnega premo\u017eenja, strahu pred partnerjevo reakcijo \u2026 Vse te razloge poganja strah, ogromno strahu.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Zami\u0161ljamo si katastrofalne scenarije:<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b><i><b>Kaj, \u010de bom potem za vedno ostal sam? Kaj, \u010de me bodo sorodniki obto\u017eevali? Kaj, \u010de mi bo vzel otroke? Kaj, \u010de ne bom mogla pre\u017eiveti sama? Kaj, \u010de si bo kaj naredil, ko ga bom zapustila?<\/b><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"plain\">Tako pr<\/span><span class=\"plain\">estra\u0161eni in nesre\u010dni ohranjamo status quo. Ampak strah ne bi smel biti razlog, zakaj smo z nekom. Edini pravi razlog je ljubezen, kajti le tako bomo v odnosu lahko sre\u010dni.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Pomislite, kak\u0161no breme nosi otrok, katerega star\u0161i so skupaj le \u0161e zaradi njega. Pa saj tega ne ve, boste morda rekli. Seveda ve, \u010de ne razumsko, pa to zagotovo \u010duti. <b>Otrok za svoj optimalen razvoj nujno potrebuje sre\u010dne star\u0161e. Zato si bo podzavestno prizadeval, da bi jih osre\u010dil, tako, da bo sku\u0161al izpolnjevati njihove neizpolnjene \u010dustvene potrebe. <\/b>To pa je seveda zloraba. Star\u0161i morajo skrbeti za otrokove potrebe in nikoli obratno! <span class=\"heading2\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><span class=\"heading2\">Zato je prizadevanje za lastno sre\u010do ena na\u0161ih glavnih \u010dlove\u0161kih in star\u0161evskih dol\u017enosti.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Tudi, ko ste se nazadnje peljali z letalom, vam je stevardesa povedala, da morate v primeru nesre\u010de kisikovo masko najprej nadeti sebi in \u0161ele nato otroku. Kako bi sicer lahko poskrbeli zanj, \u010de bi se sami onesvestili? Tako tudi nesre\u010dni in zagrenjeni ne morete skrbeti za otroke, ne da bi jim nehote zadajali \u010dustvene rane.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b>Ne pravim, da se razidite, ampak, da se potrudite za svoj odnos. Vzemite si \u010das in poglejte svojega partnerja. Zares ga poglejte. Vpra\u0161ajte ga, si sre\u010den? <\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Tega \u010dloveka, ste si sami izbrali. Sku\u0161ajte se spomniti, kaj vas je pritegnilo k njemu? Kaj vas je privla\u010dilo? Kaj vas \u0161e vedno privla\u010di? Bodita iskrena drug do drugega. Kaj bosta skupaj naredila za vajin odnos?<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Seveda si morata za dober odnos prizadevati oba. \u010ce je trud enostranski, ne bo \u0161lo. \u0160e zlasti, \u010de je va\u0161 partner nespo\u0161tljiv, grob, nefunkcionalen in se ne \u017eeli spremeniti, potem vam \u017eal ne preostane drugege, kot da ga zapustite. S tem dolgoro\u010dno delate uslugo tako sebi kot svojim otrokom.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">La\u017eje re\u010di, kot storiti, boste morda rekli. Ampak \u017eivljenje ni vedno lahko, v\u010dasih je prav presneto te\u017eko. Pomembno je, da mislite nase in na svojo sre\u010do, kajti \u010de boste sre\u010dni vi, bodo sre\u010dni tudi va\u0161i otroci. Otroci ne potrebujejo zagrenjenih \u017ertvujo\u010dih se star\u0161ev ampak zadovoljne in ljube\u010de star\u0161e.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Sku\u0161ajte si zamisliti lastni epitaf. Kaj si \u017eelite, da bi pisalo na njem?<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b><i><b>Vse \u017eivljenje je bil prestra\u0161en in skrivaj nesre\u010den.<\/b><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">ali<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b><i><b>Sledil je sebi in svojim sanjam.<\/b><\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"plain\">Poskrbite zase in negujte svoj partnerski odnos. To si zaslu\u017eite vi in va\u0161i otroci.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"color: #ff00ff;\"><a style=\"color: #ff00ff;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.psihoterapija-mr.si\/na-skrivaj-nesrecni.html\">Originalni \u010dlanek in \u0161e \u0161tevilne druge najdete tukaj, \u00a0na spletni strani avtorice prispevka\u00a0http:\/\/www.psihoterapija-mr.si\/<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Neko\u010d sem se udele\u017eila izobra\u017eevanja iz partnerske terapije, kjer je bilo re\u010deno: \u201cTretjina parov je sre\u010dnih, tretjina se jih razide, tretjina pa je na skrivaj nesre\u010dnih.\u201d Ta domislica se mi zdi posre\u010dena in kar to\u010dna. Ampak zakaj bi nekdo vztrajal v odnosu, ki ga onesre\u010duje?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1092],"tags":[2577,1400,1689,1472,1473,1434,2212],"source":[1365,1364,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni? - Hudo Slovenija\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Neko\u010d sem se udele\u017eila izobra\u017eevanja iz partnerske terapije, kjer je bilo re\u010deno: \u201cTretjina parov je sre\u010dnih, tretjina se jih razide, tretjina pa je na skrivaj nesre\u010dnih.\u201d Ta domislica se mi zdi posre\u010dena in kar to\u010dna. Ampak zakaj bi nekdo vztrajal v odnosu, ki ga onesre\u010duje?\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Hudo Slovenija\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/hudo.si\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2016-12-31T05:00:31+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2017-01-10T07:45:18+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2016\/04\/thinkstockphotos-78775051.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1870\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"1870\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"hudo\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@hudo_si\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@hudo_si\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"hudo\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"3 minute\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"hudo\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/person\/601cf3379633985b20f7e50f2bb47707\"},\"headline\":\"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni?\",\"datePublished\":\"2016-12-31T05:00:31+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2017-01-10T07:45:18+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/\"},\"wordCount\":513,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#organization\"},\"keywords\":[\"Marija Rem\u0161kar\",\"napake v partnerski zvezi\",\"nasveti za sre\u010dno partnersko zvezo\",\"partnerska zveza\",\"partnerske te\u017eave\",\"partnerski odnos\",\"slab partnerski odnos\"],\"articleSection\":[\"Seks &amp; partnerstvo\"],\"inLanguage\":\"sl-SI\"},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/\",\"name\":\"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni? - Hudo Slovenija\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2016-12-31T05:00:31+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2017-01-10T07:45:18+00:00\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"sl-SI\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni?\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/\",\"name\":\"Hudo Slovenija\",\"description\":\"Vse novice iz Slovenije in sveta\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#organization\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"sl-SI\"},{\"@type\":\"Organization\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#organization\",\"name\":\"VSN Media\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/\",\"logo\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"sl-SI\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/03\/hudo-app-2.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/03\/hudo-app-2.png\",\"width\":2185,\"height\":2167,\"caption\":\"VSN Media\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/\"},\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/hudo.si\",\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/hudo_si\"]},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/person\/601cf3379633985b20f7e50f2bb47707\",\"name\":\"hudo\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"sl-SI\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/c4ca25fa72cace7a696b52ff5db9e095?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/c4ca25fa72cace7a696b52ff5db9e095?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"hudo\"},\"url\":\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/author\/hudo\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni? - Hudo Slovenija","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/","og_locale":"sl_SI","og_type":"article","og_title":"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni? - Hudo Slovenija","og_description":"Neko\u010d sem se udele\u017eila izobra\u017eevanja iz partnerske terapije, kjer je bilo re\u010deno: \u201cTretjina parov je sre\u010dnih, tretjina se jih razide, tretjina pa je na skrivaj nesre\u010dnih.\u201d Ta domislica se mi zdi posre\u010dena in kar to\u010dna. Ampak zakaj bi nekdo vztrajal v odnosu, ki ga onesre\u010duje?","og_url":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/","og_site_name":"Hudo Slovenija","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/hudo.si","article_published_time":"2016-12-31T05:00:31+00:00","article_modified_time":"2017-01-10T07:45:18+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1870,"height":1870,"url":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2016\/04\/thinkstockphotos-78775051.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"hudo","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@hudo_si","twitter_site":"@hudo_si","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"hudo","Est. reading time":"3 minute"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/"},"author":{"name":"hudo","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/person\/601cf3379633985b20f7e50f2bb47707"},"headline":"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni?","datePublished":"2016-12-31T05:00:31+00:00","dateModified":"2017-01-10T07:45:18+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/"},"wordCount":513,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#organization"},"keywords":["Marija Rem\u0161kar","napake v partnerski zvezi","nasveti za sre\u010dno partnersko zvezo","partnerska zveza","partnerske te\u017eave","partnerski odnos","slab partnerski odnos"],"articleSection":["Seks &amp; partnerstvo"],"inLanguage":"sl-SI"},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/","url":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/","name":"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni? - Hudo Slovenija","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#website"},"datePublished":"2016-12-31T05:00:31+00:00","dateModified":"2017-01-10T07:45:18+00:00","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"sl-SI","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/"]}]},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ste-na-skrivaj-nesrecni\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Ste na skrivaj nesre\u010dni?"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#website","url":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/","name":"Hudo Slovenija","description":"Vse novice iz Slovenije in sveta","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#organization"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":"required name=search_term_string"}],"inLanguage":"sl-SI"},{"@type":"Organization","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#organization","name":"VSN Media","url":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/","logo":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"sl-SI","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/03\/hudo-app-2.png","contentUrl":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2021\/03\/hudo-app-2.png","width":2185,"height":2167,"caption":"VSN Media"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/logo\/image\/"},"sameAs":["https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/hudo.si","https:\/\/twitter.com\/hudo_si"]},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/person\/601cf3379633985b20f7e50f2bb47707","name":"hudo","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"sl-SI","@id":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/c4ca25fa72cace7a696b52ff5db9e095?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/c4ca25fa72cace7a696b52ff5db9e095?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"hudo"},"url":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/author\/hudo\/"}]}},"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12539"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12539"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12539\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12539"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12539"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12539"},{"taxonomy":"source","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/source?post=12539"},{"taxonomy":"supertag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/supertag?post=12539"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}