{"id":12547,"date":"2016-11-02T06:11:15","date_gmt":"2016-11-02T05:11:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/01\/04\/ima-partner-kontrolo-nad-vami\/"},"modified":"2016-11-11T05:06:51","modified_gmt":"2016-11-11T04:06:51","slug":"ima-partner-kontrolo-nad-vami","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ima-partner-kontrolo-nad-vami\/","title":{"rendered":"Ima partner kontrolo nad vami?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Bodite pozorni na nekaj znakov<\/strong>, ki bi lahko kazali na to, da partner izvaja nadzor nad \u017eivljenjem drugega partnerja oziroma ga \u017eeli disciplinirati, da bi deloval v zvezi po njegovih zahtevah in idejah:<\/p>\n

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  1. Ubijalska ti\u0161ina<\/strong>. Nastane, ko en partner zavra\u010da pogovor in no\u010de govoriti z drugim. Vsi poskusi, da bi se za\u010dela komunikacija, so bob ob steno. To je otro\u010dji na\u010din zavra\u010danja odgovornosti za te\u017eave v zakonu, s tem tudi prevlada njegova pozicija v smislu, da se ne bom menil toliko \u010dasa, dokler ne bo po moje. Ko se zavra\u010dajo poskusi pogovora, se s tem signalizira drugemu partnerju, da mu nisi pomemben.<\/li>\n
  2. Ma\u0161\u010devanje<\/strong>. \u010ce tistemu, ki zlorablja odnos, doka\u017ee\u0161 in se prito\u017ei\u0161, da njegov odnos boli, bo usmeril svoj ma\u0161\u010devalni prst nazaj. Skoraj ni mo\u017enosti, da bi se s spo\u0161tovanjem in umirjeno pogovorila o partnerskih problemih. No, mo\u017eno je tudi, da bo kri\u010dal in zmerjal, vse s ciljem, da poni\u017ea.<\/li>\n
  3. Igranje \u017ertve.<\/strong> Ta taktika je pogosta in slu\u017ei temu, da se vzdr\u017euje podoba, da tisti, ki izvaja zlorabo in nadzor, ni napadalec, temve\u010d je v resnici \u017ertev. Kot tak\u0161nega se zna vedno prikazati, ko so drugi ljudje prisotni. Vedno je kriv nekdo drug. \u010ce niste \u017ee vi, je pa \u0161ef ali so otroci. Sosedje. Mimoido\u010di.<\/li>\n
  4. Ne ustre\u017ee in ne sli\u0161i pro\u0161enj<\/strong>. Karkoli pri\u010dakujete od njega v smislu zakonskih dogovorov, to pa\u010d ni pomembno zanj. Ve\u010dina partnerjev, ki \u017eivijo v zdravih zvezah, se za njo trudijo ter se zavedajo, da je normalno, da partner od nas tudi nekaj pri\u010dakuje. No, partnerja, ki zahteva, da se vse vrti okoli njega, ne zanimajo potrebe drugih, zgolj njegove lastne.<\/li>\n
  5. Obra\u010danje besed.<\/strong> Obi\u010dajno partner ne sli\u0161i, kaj smo mu povedali. Najraj\u0161i na\u0161e besede namenoma interpretira napa\u010dno in s tem poka\u017ee, da smo mi bebci. Ker \u0161tejejo le njegove.<\/li>\n
  6. Ali ne zna\u0161 sprejeti \u0161ale?<\/strong> Partner, ki zlorablja odnos, nas bo obto\u017eil, da pretiravamo v svojih odzivih, da smo preve\u010d ob\u010dutljivi, da napihnemo nek problem ali da pa\u010d ne znamo sprejeti \u0161ale. S takimi obto\u017ebami pravzaprav poka\u017eejo, da sami niso v stiku z lastnimi \u010dustvi, da si marsikaj zanikajo in da enostavno ne upo\u0161tevajo svojega partnerja. Ker ga raj\u0161i kar obto\u017eijo za vse mogo\u010de.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Kot vedno, i\u0161\u010dem re\u0161itev za tak\u0161ne nesre\u010dne zveze<\/strong>. Zgoraj na\u0161teti znaki ka\u017eejo na oblike zlorabe, ki boli in se dogaja lahko vsak dan, pa dolgo \u010dasa nimamo mo\u010di, da bi se ji iztrgali. Tak partner je iz nas v \u010dasu trajanja zveze izpil na\u0161e samospo\u0161tovanje in lastno vrednost. \u017divimo kot prazne lupine. Potrebno je kar veliko\u00a0mo\u010di, da raztrgamo tak\u0161en patolo\u0161ki vzorec<\/strong>. Ko ozavestimo, da nismo mi sami tisti, ki povzro\u010damo zlorabo, se lahko odlo\u010dimo, da v kon\u010dni fazi tudi razdremo tak\u0161en odnos in odidemo.<\/p>\n

    Avtorica prispevka sem univerzitetna diplomirana socialna pedagoginja in diplomirana socialna delavka Melita Kuhar<\/strong>, ki vodim projekt Svetovalnica<\/strong>, www.svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/span><\/strong>, dosegljiva sem na tel.\u0161t. 031 666 168<\/strong>. \u010ce bi se radi naro\u010dili na individualno svetovanje ali me kaj povpra\u0161ali, pi\u0161ite na: info@svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

    Ve\u010d o zgoraj napisanem si lahko preberete tudi socialnem omre\u017eju www.facebook.com\/Svetovalnica<\/a><\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Med nami obstajajo nekateri zakonci, ki imajo mo\u010dno potrebo, da nadzorujejo svojega partnerja. Vzrok te bolestne potrebe, ki je seveda zakopan globoko v partnerja je, da ga je strah in se ne po\u010duti v svoji ko\u017ei varnega, sprejetega. Velja tako za mo\u0161ke kot \u017eenske.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1092],"tags":[1427,1400,1434,1990],"source":[1365,1364,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nIma partner kontrolo nad vami? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ima-partner-kontrolo-nad-vami\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Ima partner kontrolo nad vami? - Hudo Slovenija\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Med nami obstajajo nekateri zakonci, ki imajo mo\u010dno potrebo, da nadzorujejo svojega partnerja. 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