{"id":14087,"date":"2015-09-09T05:01:00","date_gmt":"2015-09-09T04:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2015\/09\/09\/kako-se-spopasti-s-strahom-pred-zvezami\/"},"modified":"2015-09-09T05:01:00","modified_gmt":"2015-09-09T04:01:00","slug":"kako-se-spopasti-s-strahom-pred-zvezami","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/kako-se-spopasti-s-strahom-pred-zvezami\/","title":{"rendered":"Kako se spopasti s strahom pred zvezami?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/files\/2009\/09\/01_464__094_retnauk3-506x660.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-195104\" title=\"01_464__094_retnauk3-506x660\" src=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/files\/2009\/09\/01_464__094_retnauk3-506x660-660x513.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"660\" height=\"513\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Se zdi, da z vajino zvezo ni ni\u010d narobe? Je torej \u010das za korak naprej? In potem stisnete rep med noge in prestra\u0161eno pobegnete? Je to va\u0161 ustaljen vzorec? \u010ce si \u017eelite, da bi bilo druga\u010de, vam ponujamo pot osmih korakov.<\/p>\n<h2>Fobija pred zvezami<\/h2>\n<p>Enako, kot velja za odvisnost od zvez, velja, da sta za neko razmerje vedno potrebna dva, ki vsak na svoj na\u010din omogo\u010data, da je zveza taka, kot je. Ljudje si izbiramo partnerja, ki ustreza na\u0161im nezavednim vzorcem. Ljudje, ki imajo strah pred zvezami, tako najve\u010dkrat lovijo partnerje, ki iz tega ali onega razloga niso dosegljivi. Lo\u010dimo\u00a0 med aktivci in pasivci. Aktivci so tisti, ki dejansko be\u017eijo od zveze; pasivci pa so tisti, ki si izbirajo partnerje, ki sami be\u017eijo. Ne be\u017eijo le od partnerstev, ampak ve\u010dkrat kar \u010dez no\u010d pustijo tudi slu\u017ebo. Vse situacije vidijo kot usodno determinirane in to jih pla\u0161i. Vsaka obveza je zanje preve\u010d. Dana\u0161nja dru\u017eba je naklonjena temu, da so ljudje dalj \u010dasa samski, da si ustvarijo kariero in ne ustvarijo hitro dru\u017eine. Vendar ne moremo re\u010di, da se vsi samski ljudje bojijo zvez- \u010deprav je res, da je tudi to nekaj prispevalo k razmahu samskosti. Razlika je v tem, da se tisti, ki se resni\u010dno bojijo in izogibajo zvezam, izogibajo tudi, ko je potrebno sprejemati druge pomembnej\u0161e odlo\u010ditve v \u017eivljenju.<\/p>\n<p><a class=\"attachment-link\" title=\"Kako se spopasti s strahom pred zvezami? 2 od 3\" href=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/partnerstvo\/kako-se-spopasti-s-strahom-pred-zvezami\/galerija\/kako-se-spopasti-s-strahom-pred-zvezami-2-od-3\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"attachment-large\" title=\"Kako se spopasti s strahom pred zvezami? 2 od 3\" src=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/files\/2012\/08\/01_460_035_retnauk3-660x435.jpg\" alt=\"Kako se spopasti s strahom pred zvezami? 2 od 3\" width=\"660\" height=\"435\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Ugotovite, \u010de se bojite zvez!<\/h2>\n<p>Prva pot na poti do okrevanja od strahu pred zvezami je lahko nekaj korakov, oziroma vpra\u0161anj. Odgovore si zapi\u0161ite in jih \u010dez nekaj dni ponovno preberite.<\/p>\n<p>1.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Ne postavljajte si vpra\u0161anja \u201eZakaj?\u201c, saj najverjetneje ne boste pri\u0161li do odgovora. \u010ce bi namre\u010d vedeli zakaj, ne bi bili v tej zagati in bi \u017ee odpravljali te\u017eavo. Pot do odgovora \u201ezakaj\u201c naj vodi preko druga\u010dnih vpra\u0161anj. Koga ali kaj si \u017eelim? \u010cesa se bojim? Je kriv strah pred tem, da me kdo prizadane? Kak\u0161ne partnerje si obi\u010dajno izbiram? Kaj imajo skupnega?<\/p>\n<p>2.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Preberite si odgovore in jih razcepite na posamezne besede. Posku\u0161ajte iz njih ustvariti nek smisel, potegniti rde\u010do nit.<\/p>\n<p>3.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u010ce ste trenutno v zvezi, ustvarite seznam pozitivnih lastnosti partnerja. Lastnosti, ki jih imate radi.<\/p>\n<p><a class=\"attachment-link\" title=\"Kako se spopasti s strahom pred zvezami? 3 od 3\" href=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/partnerstvo\/kako-se-spopasti-s-strahom-pred-zvezami\/galerija\/kako-se-spopasti-s-strahom-pred-zvezami-3-od-3\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"attachment-large\" title=\"Kako se spopasti s strahom pred zvezami? 3 od 3\" src=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/files\/2012\/08\/01_387_053_retnauk-23-660x437.jpg\" alt=\"Kako se spopasti s strahom pred zvezami? 3 od 3\" width=\"660\" height=\"437\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>4.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Ustvarite stavke, ki se za\u010dnejo z besedami \u201ckaj \u010de\u201d in se nadaljujejo po va\u0161i volji. En primer: Kaj \u010de nadaljujem s to zvezo?<\/p>\n<p>5.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Primerjajte dosedanje odgovore, podpi\u0161ite dva najpomembnej\u0161a odgovora in si odgovorite, \u010de so razlogi utemeljeni, upravi\u010deni in je torej razhod edina logi\u010dna posledica partnerjeve neusklajenosti z vami.<\/p>\n<p>6.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Poglobite se v odnos, ki je vladal v va\u0161i dru\u017eini, ko ste \u0161e \u017eiveli doma. Premi\u0161ljujte o tem, kako ste se doma spopadali s te\u017eavami.<\/p>\n<p>7.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u010ce ste v zvezi se morate po vsem samospra\u0161evanju in raz\u010di\u0161\u010devanju seveda pogovoriti s partnerjem. Razlo\u017eite mu, kaj je narobe, da si ne bo mislil, da je res kaj narobe z njim. Pogovorita se o spremembah, ki bi bile potrebne, da bi la\u017eje sprejeli odgovornost, ki jo s seboj prina\u0161a zveza.<\/p>\n<p>8.\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Ko bosta predelala vse skrbi in tegobe, se prepustita spro\u0161\u010denemu klepetu med vama. Ne pustita, da vlada naelektreno ozra\u010dje.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ti kar naprej govori, da \u0161e ni pripravljen na resno zvezo? Ali pa si to kar ti? 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