{"id":14351,"date":"2015-08-17T04:05:00","date_gmt":"2015-08-17T03:05:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2015\/08\/17\/zakaj-vedno-izbiras-napacne-moske\/"},"modified":"2016-04-01T09:21:54","modified_gmt":"2016-04-01T08:21:54","slug":"zakaj-vedno-izbiras-napacne-moske","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/zdrav-duh-telo\/zakaj-vedno-izbiras-napacne-moske\/","title":{"rendered":"Zakaj vedno izbira\u0161 napa\u010dne mo\u0161ke?"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2012\/03\/photoxpress_6209914.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2012\/03\/photoxpress_6209914-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2012\/03\/photoxpress_6209914.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>Napa\u010dne partnerje pogosto izbirajo \u017eenske, ki imajo nerazre\u0161ene travme iz preteklosti (Photoxpress)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Verjetno mora obstajati razlog, zakaj se nekatere \u017eenske znova in znova obna\u0161ajo po istem vzorcu. En sam slab izbor se \u0161e lahko opravi\u010di kot slu\u010daj, \u010de pa se zgodba ponavlja, je \u010das za temeljit premislek. Napa\u010dne izbire partnerjev so pogosto posledica neracionalnih strahov, podzavestnih kompleksov, anksioznosti in nerazre\u0161enih travm iz preteklosti. Po pravilu so vsi ti ob\u010dutki nezavedni, a zato prav ni\u010d \u0161ibkej\u0161i. \u010custva, ki se jih niti ne zaveda\u0161, lahko popolnoma obvladujejo tvoje obna\u0161anje, odzivanje in \u010dustvovanje ter uni\u010dijo \u017eivljenje \u0161e tako mo\u010dnim in bistrim osebam. Te\u017eje travme bo\u0161 te\u017eko razre\u0161ila sama. Poi\u0161\u010di pomo\u010d strokovnjaka.<\/p>\n<h2>Boji\u0161 se izgube<\/h2>\n<p>\u010ce si v mladosti nenadoma izgubila osebo, ki ti je zelo veliko pomenila in si jo nadvse ljubila, je povsem mogo\u010de, da kasneje razvije\u0161 strah pred izgubo ali zapustitvijo. Tvojo \u017eeljo po osnovanju dru\u017eine ohromi nezavedni strah pred tem, da bi izgubila partnerja ali bi te partner zapustil. Zato bo\u0161 praviloma izbirala mo\u0161ke, ki se tudi sami bojijo resnega razmerja, se ne \u017eelijo vezati in be\u017eijo od odgovornosti. Z njimi bo\u0161 lahko ustvarila le povr\u0161inski odnos brez globje povezanosti in bli\u017eine in se tako za\u0161\u010ditila pred \u010dustvenimi bole\u010dinami v primeru, da te zapusti.<\/p>\n<h2>Podlegla si predsodkom<\/h2>\n<p>Morda te preobremenjujejo pritiski dru\u017ebenega okolja, ki te silijo v lov na mo\u017ea. Trudi\u0161 se jim ustre\u010di, pri tem pa ne razmi\u0161lja\u0161 trezno in pristane\u0161 na prvega vsaj pribli\u017eno sprejemljivega mo\u0161kega. Pozablja\u0161 na svoje resni\u010dne \u017eelje in kon\u010da\u0161 s partnerjem, ki ga v resnici ne \u017eeli\u0161 imeti ob sebi. Seveda tvoja nami\u0161ljena sre\u010da nikoli ne more trajati dolgo, razo\u010daranje pa je neizbe\u017eno.<\/p>\n<h2>Primanjkuje ti samozavesti<\/h2>\n<p>\u010ce se ne bo\u0161 sama cenila in se imela rada, te tudi drugi ne bodo. Nezavedno prepri\u010danje, da nisi vredna ljubezni ti nikakor ne bo pomagalo, da bi jo na\u0161la. Za vsako mrvico pozornosti si preve\u010d hvale\u017ena, zato za\u010dni zanemarjati svoje potrebe in stori\u0161 vse, da bi ugodila partnerju, s tem pa mu le sporo\u010da\u0161, kako obupana si. Dokler ne bo\u0161 vzpostavila ljube\u010dega odnosa do sebe, te podobno klavrn scenarij \u010daka tudi v tvojem ljubezenskem razmerju. Zavedati se mora\u0161, da le samozavestna \u017eenska lahko privla\u010di samozavestnega mo\u0161kega.<\/p>\n<h2>Kako si lahko pomaga\u0161?<\/h2>\n<p>Da bi spremenila svoje \u017eivljenje, mora\u0161 najprej spremeniti sebe. Poglobi se vase in se posku\u0161ajte razumeti. Nau\u010dite se spo\u0161tovati samo sebe v vsakem pogledu in ceniti svoje vrline. Problemov ne pometaj pod preprogo, ampak jih odgovorno in konstruktivno re\u0161uj, enega za drugim. Pri tem ti lahko pomaga psiholo\u0161ka literatura, psihoterapija, in samoanaliza. Prvi korak je, da odkrije\u0161, \u010desa si pravzaprav sploh \u017eeli\u0161. Iskreno odgovori na naslednja vpra\u0161anja:<\/p>\n<p>1. Kaj zares ho\u010dem?<br \/>\n2. Kaj pri\u010dakujem od razmerja?<br \/>\n3. Kaj sem pripravljena dati in kaj zahtevam v zameno?<br \/>\n4. Katere kompromise sem pripravljena skleniti?<br \/>\n5. Na kaj ne bom nikoli pristala?<\/p>\n<p>Zatem opi\u0161i \u010dloveka, ki bi ga zares \u017eelela imeti poleg sebe. Najprej naredi seznam njegovih idealnih karakternih in telesnih lastnosti, nato pa se posveti podrobnostim. Kaj naj bo po poklicu, kak\u0161na naj bodo njegova zanimanja, kak\u0161en mora imeti odnos do otrok,\u2026 Izdelaj si jasno predstavo o tvojem idealnem partnerju, nato pa se pogumno odpravi v svet in z malo sre\u010de ga bo\u0161 tudi na\u0161la.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kako je mogo\u010de, da lepa in uspe\u0161na \u017eenska kot si ti, kon\u010da z mo\u0161kim, ki bi se mu morala na dale\u010d izogniti?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1092,1],"tags":[2200,1451],"source":[1365,1364,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Zakaj vedno izbira\u0161 napa\u010dne mo\u0161ke? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/zdrav-duh-telo\/zakaj-vedno-izbiras-napacne-moske\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Zakaj vedno izbira\u0161 napa\u010dne mo\u0161ke? 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