{"id":14882,"date":"2015-08-07T12:37:00","date_gmt":"2015-08-07T11:37:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2015\/08\/07\/koliko-ljubosumja-v-odnosu-je-se-zdravega\/"},"modified":"2016-04-01T15:26:44","modified_gmt":"2016-04-01T14:26:44","slug":"koliko-ljubosumja-v-odnosu-je-se-zdravega","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/koliko-ljubosumja-v-odnosu-je-se-zdravega\/","title":{"rendered":"Koliko ljubosumja v odnosu je \u0161e zdravega?"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/thinkstockphotos-514274713-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/thinkstockphotos-514274713-660x320.jpg 660w,http:\/\/moski.hudo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/03\/thinkstockphotos-514274713-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>foto:Thinkstock<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2>Koliko ljubosumja je v odnosu je \u0161e zdravega?<\/h2>\n<p>Odgovor na to vpra\u0161anje bi bil, da nekaj zagotovo. \u010ce bi bili na\u0161i odnosi povsem brez ljubosumja, bi morda tolerirali preve\u010d. Ali pa tudi ne. Odnos je zdrav, \u010de sta oba v njem zadovoljna. Se pa pogosto zgodi, da je ljubosumja preve\u010d. Spomnim se znanca, ki mi je razlagal, da s punco nikoli ne gresta ven. Zanimalo me je zakaj, ker sta oba mlada, polna energije. Rekel je, da bi znorel, \u010de bi jo kdo gledal. In verjetno bi jo, ker je res lepa.<\/p>\n<p>Leta kasneje sem ju sre\u010dala v trgovini, z otrokom, poro\u010dena. Ona \u0161e vedno lepa. Vendar z neko oto\u017enostjo v o\u010deh. In spomnila sem se na njegovo pripovedovanje o ljubosumju. Ob\u010dutek sem imela, da se je vdala, da ima ob\u010dutek, da ne sme biti izpostavljena, videna. \u0160koda. Takrat ga nisem uspela prepri\u010dati v to, da bi mogo\u010de bilo bolje za oba, da bi bil ponosen, da ima lepo punco.<\/p>\n<h2>Zakaj smo sploh ljubosumni?<\/h2>\n<p>Ljubosumje obi\u010dajno izvira iz na\u0161e negotovosti. \u010ce veste, da vas partnerka ljubi in da vam je zvesta, ni razloga za ljubosumje. V\u010dasih pa niti njena vdanost ni dovolj. Takrat se je potrebno zazreti vase in razmisliti, kje in zakaj se to \u010dustvo poraja v tako mo\u010dni obliki, da hromi odnos. Kadar mo\u010dno \u010dustveno odreagiramo, reakcija ni povezana samo s sedanjim trenutkom. Sestavljajo jo tudi izku\u0161nje iz preteklosti in pri\u010dakovanja v prihodnosti. \u010ce bi lahko to dvoje odmislili, bi bila reakcija verjetno manj burna.<\/p>\n<p>Izku\u0161nje iz preteklosti niso nujno povezane z ljubezenskim odnosom oziroma razo\u010daranjem na podro\u010dju partnerskih zvez. Lahko ste bili prizadeti ali izdani na povsem drugem podro\u010dju. Lahko da ste se ve\u010dkrat po\u010dutili izigrane in je to omajalo va\u0161e zaupanje v ljudi. Morda pa sami sebi ne zaupate dovolj in imate ob\u010dutek, da partnerke niste vredni in da vas bo prevarala ali da bo vsaj neiskrena. Kakr\u0161ne koli \u017ee so izku\u0161nje, poskusite ozavestiti, da so pretekle. In da pogosto va\u0161a izbranka nima ni\u010d z njimi. Ona je lahko druga\u010dna od tistih, ki so vas prizadeli, in verjetno tudi je. Naj ne pla\u010duje dolgov drugih iz va\u0161e preteklosti. Dajte ji prilo\u017enost, da vam doka\u017ee, da je vredna zaupanja.<\/p>\n<h2>Kako odpraviti pretirano ljubosumje?<\/h2>\n<p>V kolikor so va\u0161a \u010dustva res mo\u010dna in ljubosumje \u0161kodi va\u0161emu odnosu, se pogovorite s partnerko. La\u017eje bo razumela va\u0161e vedenje in ga kdaj tudi tolerirala, \u010de bo vedela, da je to te\u017eava, ki se je zavedate. V kolikor tudi skupaj z njo ljubosumja ne morete obvladati, si poi\u0161\u010dite strokovno pomo\u010d. To ne pomeni, da ste \u0161ibki ali da ne zmorete. To pomeni, da se zavedate, da je mo\u010d v va\u0161ih rokah.<\/p>\n<p>Ne pozabite, da ni nih\u010de drug odgovoren za va\u0161e vedenje. Ni partnerka tista, ki v vas prebuja ljubosumje, niti prijatelji ali neznanci. Vi ste tisti, ki na dolo\u010dene dogodke tako reagirate. In kar je \u0161e najbolj\u0161e, vi ste tisti, ki lahko to spremenite. \u010cetudi ne boste ostali v tem odnosu, je to nalo\u017eba za prihodnost. Kajti zaradi svojega ljubosumja najbolj trpite vi. In zakaj ne bi naredili ne\u010desa, kar vam bo pomagalo, da se znebite tistega, kar vas ovira pri spro\u0161\u010denem u\u017eivanju v odnosih. \u017divljenje je namre\u010d prekratko, da bi si ga sami grenili.<\/p>\n<p><b>Anita Bogdanovi\u0107 je\u00a0tudi osebna svetovalka. 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