{"id":18812,"date":"2016-04-01T08:01:45","date_gmt":"2016-04-01T06:01:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/04\/01\/recite-jamranju-stop\/"},"modified":"2016-04-08T13:10:46","modified_gmt":"2016-04-08T11:10:46","slug":"recite-jamranju-stop","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/aktualno\/mnenja\/recite-jamranju-stop\/","title":{"rendered":"Recite jamranju stop!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Slovenci imamo jamranje v genih. Ta lastnost je najverjetneje kulturnozgodovinsko pogojena, saj\u00a0 kot \u201cnarod hlapcev\u201d\u00a0 nismo imeli kaj dosti mo\u017enosti odlo\u010danja in tako nam je ostalo le jamranje. Samo \u010de se ozremo na slovensko literaturo s Cankarjem na \u010delu, nam kmalu postane jasno, da kot narod nismo ravno zgled optimizma, \u017eivljenjskega elana in akcije. Raje \u017edimo na svojem kav\u010du ali v gostilni in jamramo. Ste vedeli, da imamo celo spletno stran jamraj.si? \u010ce \u017eelite, lahko takoj odjamrajte tja, lahko pa nadaljujete z branjem tega \u010dlanka.<\/p>\n

Ko jamranje postane nadomestek za akcijo<\/h2>\n

Ni\u010d ni narobe, \u010de sem in tja malo potarnamo, problem pa nastane, kadar jamranje postane nadomestek za akcijo. Prvo je gotovo la\u017eje kot drugo, saj ne zahteva nobenega napora in prinese za\u010dasno olaj\u0161anje. Poleg tega nam o<\/span>mogo\u010da, da ostanemo v coni udobj<\/span>a in se smilimo sami sebi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Za svojo nesre\u010do oziroma neugoden polo\u017eaj je seveda najbolj prikladno okriviti druge. Na primer politike, star\u0161e, \u0161efa, partnerja, slabo vreme, boga … Tako nam ni treba prevzeti odgovornosti za lastno \u017eivljenje. In \u010de ne prevzemam odgovornosti, mi ni treba ni\u010desar spremeniti. Kot vemo, vsaka sprememba prinese dolo\u010deno mero stresa in negotovosti. Zato je najbolje ostati sicer kroni\u010dno nezadovoljen, vendar na varnem in dobro poznanem terenu. Potreba po varnosti je po Maslowu namre\u010d mnogo pred potrebo po samorealizaciji.<\/p>\n

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Na veliko stvari res nimamo vpliva, zato vplivajmo na tiste, na katere lahko. To dobro ponazori spodnja molitev:<\/p>\n

\u00bbO Bog, daj mi mo\u010d, da sprejmem tisto, \u010desar ne morem spremeniti,<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

daj mi pogum, da spremenim tisto, kar lahko spremenim<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n

in daj mi modrost, da razlikujem to dvoje!\u00ab<\/i>\u00a0 <\/i>dr. Niebuhr Reinhord<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Rodimo se z zelo razli\u010dnimi izhodi\u0161\u010di za \u017eivljenje. Nekateri ljube\u010dim star\u0161em, drugi nasilnim alkoholikom. Nekateri v vili v bogati soseski, drugi na kupu smeti. Nekateri zdravi, drugi invalidni, nekateri nadpovpre\u010dno inteligentni, drugi z manj\u0161imi umskimi sposobnostmi \u2026 Zato je primerjati se z drugimi podobno nesmiselno, kot na maratomu ujeti nekoga, ki je \u0161tartal dve uri pred nami.<\/p>\n

Otrok seveda ni odgovoren za to, kje, kak\u0161nim star\u0161em in kak\u0161en se je rodil. Ko odraste pa postane odgovoren za to, kaj bo naredil s svojim \u017eivljenjem.<\/span><\/p>\n

Z odra\u0161\u010danjem prevzemamo \u010dedalje ve\u010d odgovornosti. Najprej moramo sami pospraviti svoje igra\u010de in si umiti zobe. Odrasli v polnem pomenu besede pa smo \u0161ele takrat, ko v prevzamemo odgovornost za lastno \u017eivljenje. Veliko ljudi \u017eal nikoli ne pride do te to\u010dke.<\/p>\n

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\u201c<\/i>Kadar krivi\u0161 druge, se odpove\u0161 mo\u010di, da sam nekaj spremeni\u0161.\u201d <\/i>neznani avtor<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Dokler \u010dlovek verjame, da so za vse njegove tegobe krivi drugi, bo njegovo \u017eivljenje v praznem teku. Namesto, da bi zavzel aktivno dr\u017eo, bo zapravljal \u010das s prito\u017eevanjem in iskanjem krivcev za svojo nesre\u010do.<\/p>\n

Zato je zdaj skrajni\u00a0 \u010das, da prenehate z jamranjem in stopite v akcijo. Za za\u010detek lahko napi\u0161ete seznam stvari,\u00a0 s katerimi ste v \u017eivljenju zadovoljnji in tistih, s katerimi niste. Nato slednje razdelite na dva dela. Tiste, na katere nimate vpliva in na tiste, na katere imate vpliv. Na slednjem seznamu ob vsaki to\u010dki napi\u0161ite, kaj lahko sami naredite za izbolj\u0161anje polo\u017eaja.<\/p>\n

Verjemite, da v resnici lahko naredite mnogo ve\u010d, kot si\u00a0 mislite<\/h2>\n

Na primer, da ste \u017ee dolgo brez slu\u017ebe. <\/b>Ste res naredili \u017ee \u010disto vse, da bi jo na\u0161li? Le po\u0161iljanje pro\u0161enj ni dovolj. Ste se udele\u017eili vseh mo\u017enih brezpla\u010dnih izobra\u017eevanj s te\u010daji podjetni\u0161tva na \u010delu? Ste se v podjetju, kjer bi radi delali oglasili osebno? Ste razmislili o lastni podjetni\u0161ki poti?<\/p>\n

Na primer, da se \u017ee dolgo trudite shuj\u0161ati. <\/b>Ste res poskusili \u017ee \u010disto vse? Ste se posvetovali z osebnim zdravnikom? Ste obiskali nutricionista? Ste redno telesno aktivni? Ste razmi\u0161ljali, da je va\u0161a prekomerna potreba po hrani izraz neke nezadovoljene \u010dustvene potrebe, ki jo te\u0161ite s hrano?<\/p>\n

To sta le dva primera. Seveda pa je za vsako spremembo potrebna mo\u010dna volja in motivacija. Motivirani smo ponavadi takrat, kadar verjamemo, da nam bo nekaj uspelo. Pri tem pa zelo pomaga, \u010de si cilj razdelimo na ve\u010d manj\u0161ih ciljev.<\/p>\n

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\u201c<\/i>Samodisciplina pomeni delati tisto, za kar vemo, da je prav in pomembno, pa \u010detudi je te\u017eko. To je hkrati najbolj\u0161a pot do ponosa, samozavesti in osebnega zadovoljstva.\u201d <\/i>Brian Tracy<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Ljudje imajo pogosto te\u017eave s samozavestjo prav zato, ker ne prevzamejo odgovornosti za svoje \u017eivljenje. Namesto tega ostajajo v vlogi \u017ertve, kar mo\u010dno ohromi njihove ambicije, dose\u017eke in odnose.<\/p>\n

Ne prevzeti odgovornosti za svoje \u017eivljenje je kot re\u010deno na nek na\u010din la\u017eje, udobneje, bolj varno.<\/p>\n

S tem, ko se izognemo odgovornosti in jo prelo\u017eimo na ostale, pa se odpovemo tudi lastni mo\u010di in tako namesto glavni igralci ostajamo zgolj statisti svojih \u017eivljenj. Saj poznate reklo, da tisti, ki ni\u010d ne tvega, pravzaprav tvega vse.<\/p>\n

Originalni \u010dlanek in \u0161e \u0161tevilne druge najdete tukaj, \u00a0na spletni strani avtorice prispevka\u00a0http:\/\/www.psihoterapija-mr.si\/<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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