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Foto: Profimedia<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

O\u010de vzgaja druga\u010de<\/h2>\n

Vzgona principa mame in o\u010deta se obi\u010dajno razlikujeta. Vsi, ki imate otroke, najbr\u017e veste, o \u010dem bom pisala danes. Za mame velja stereotip, da smo za\u0161\u010ditni\u0161ke, v\u010dasih preve\u010d posesivne in \u017eelimo imeti nadzor nad vsemi aktivnostmi otroka. O\u010detje naj bi praviloma pu\u0161\u010dali ve\u010d svobode, kreativnosti in zdrave agresije.<\/p>\n

Torej, ko pa gledam mlade mamice, kako gledajo na otroka in na mo\u017ea, bi \u017eelela izpostaviti naslednje vidike razli\u010dnih vzgojnih principov:<\/strong><\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mame iz svoje prevelike skrbi mnogo krat \u00bbdu\u0161ijo\u00ab otrokovo naravno potrebo po raziskovanju okolja<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Raj\u0161i same vse postorijo namesto mal\u010dka, ki je tako oropan lastne izku\u0161nje uspeha ali neuspeha<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Kar naprej se zoperstavljajo vzgojni metodi mo\u017ea oziroma otrokovega o\u010deta, ko le-ta sku\u0161a otroka pripraviti na svet tekmovalnosti skozi morebiti za mamin okus preve\u010d agresivno igro ali tekmovanje<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 O\u010detje sku\u0161ajo svoj mo\u0161ki na\u010din prenesti na otroka skozi ve\u010dji dele\u017e svobode in mo\u017enosti uresni\u010devanja radovednosti, ki je lastna majhnemu otroku. Pri tem bolj od dale\u010d izvaja nadzor in kontrolo, da se otroku ne bi kaj pripetilo, a tega otrok obi\u010dajno ne \u010duti tako da ima ve\u010dji maneverski prostor raziskovanja, pa \u010detudi kdaj pade ali si poto\u010dne koleno ali uma\u017ee sve\u017eo maj\u010dko.<\/p>\n

Bila sem pri\u010da prerekanju mamice in o\u010dija, ki je potekalo nekako takole:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mami:<\/strong> Ne dajaj mu te \u017eoge, se bo umazal, pa \u0161e za njo bo stekel na cesto. Ostanita raj\u0161i doma na varnem\u2026<\/p>\n

O\u010di:<\/strong> Pazim na \u017eogo, se bova brcala in si jo podajala, naj se otrok nadiha sve\u017eega zraka in se utrudi, bo hitreje zaspal\u2026<\/p>\n

Mami:<\/strong> Mene skrbi, da se bo prehladil, ker se bo spotil\u2026.<\/p>\n

O\u010di:<\/strong> Ni\u010d mu ne bo, se bova doma hitro preoblekla<\/p>\n

Pomembno je zavezni\u0161tvo med star\u0161ema in “nadzorovana” svoboda<\/h2>\n

Prepri\u010dana sem, da poznate \u0161e mnogo podobnih dialogov med star\u0161ema, ki se lahko izrodijo tudi v merjenje mo\u010di v smislu, kdo ima bolj prav, kdo zna bolje vzgajati, kje drugi star\u0161 dela ve\u010dje napake, pri tem pa star\u0161a pozabita, da vse to njuno prerekanje spremlja tudi njun mal\u010dek.<\/p>\n

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“Pomembno je zavezni\u0161tvo med star\u0161ema, ko oba do otroka pristopata s ciljem, da sta na pribli\u017eno enaki na\u010din v sozvo\u010dju z otrokovimi potrebami.”<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Kar \u017eelim poudariti in ozavestiti pri mladih star\u0161ih je dejstvo, da otrok za zdravi razvoj potrebuje izku\u0161njo skrbnosti in za\u0161\u010dite, ki jo dobi pri mamici, potrebuje pa v enaki meri tudi \u00bbnadzorovano\u00ab svobodo in meje, ki jih opredeli o\u010di, ko za otroka kreira situacije, v katerih se mora otrok dokazovati, truditi, tekmovati.<\/p>\n

Oba vzgojna principa sta temelja za oblikovanje stabilne otrokove osebnosti, ko se bo \u010dutil varnega, sprejetega in ljubljenega to\u010dno tak\u0161nega, kot je. Od obeh star\u0161ev bo prejel dolo\u010dene izzive, s katerimi se bo moral boriti kot majhen \u010dlovek in s katerimi se bo soo\u010dal, morebiti v nekoliko druga\u010dni obliki tudi kot odrasla oseba. In taisti odrasel posameznik bo nato verjetno prenesel prejete vzgojne metode naprej na lastne otroke.<\/p>\n

Avtorica prispevka sem univerzitetna diplomirana socialna pedagoginja in diplomirana socialna delavka Melita Kuhar<\/b>, ki vodim projekt Svetovalnica<\/b>, www.svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/strong>, dosegljiva sem na tel.\u0161t.031 666 168<\/b>. \u010ce bi se radi naro\u010dili na individualno svetovanje ali me kaj povpra\u0161ali, pi\u0161ite na:info@svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Ve\u010d o zgoraj napisanem si lahko preberete tudi socialnem omre\u017eju <\/strong>www.facebook.com\/Svetovalnica<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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