{"id":32662,"date":"2016-04-18T05:00:00","date_gmt":"2016-04-18T03:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/2016\/04\/18\/ali-vajino-razmerje-unicujejo-stare-zamere\/"},"modified":"2016-04-26T12:25:18","modified_gmt":"2016-04-26T10:25:18","slug":"ali-vajino-razmerje-unicujejo-stare-zamere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ali-vajino-razmerje-unicujejo-stare-zamere\/","title":{"rendered":"Ali vajino razmerje uni\u010dujejo stare zamere?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a class=\"attachment-link\" title=\"Ali vajino vezo uni\u010dujejo stare zamere? 1 od 3\" href=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/partnerski-odnos-2\/razmerje\/kako-do-srecne-zveze\/ali-vajino-vezo-unicujejo-stare-zamere\/galerija\/ali-vajino-vezo-unicujejo-stare-zamere-1-od-3\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"attachment-large\" src=\"http:\/\/www.zenska.si\/files\/2012\/08\/photoxpress_193869781-660x441.jpg\" alt=\"Ali vajino vezo uni\u010dujejo stare zamere? 1 od 3\" width=\"660\" height=\"441\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Nepreboljena preteklost je destruktivna za vezo<\/h2>\n<p>Ko se te\u017eave iz preteklosti vedno znova pojavljajo v sedanjosti veze ter povzro\u010dajo te\u017eave, se par kaj hitro znajde v ko\u010dljivi situaciji, saj preteklosti nih\u010de ne more spremeniti. Najsi gre za biv\u0161e partnerje, nezvestobo, dolo\u010dene dogodke ali dejanja, ki jih je partner storil, nepreboljena preteklost vsekakor ne vpliva pozitivno na vezo, ki bi bila sicer zdrava, temve\u010d jo zgolj uni\u010duje, saj se rane, ki naj bi bile \u017ee zaceljene ob \u0161e tako majhnem stimulansu vedno znova odprejo. Seveda nekatere rane potrebujejo dlje \u010dasa, da se zacelijo, a vsekakor mora priti dan, ko so te stvari pozabljene in je veza pripravljena ponovno za\u017eiveti brez grenkih spominov.<\/p>\n<h2>Gre\u0161iti je \u010dlove\u0161ko<\/h2>\n<p>Spomnimo se na enega najbolj znanih biblijskih citatov, ki ga je izrekel Jezus, ko je zagledal gru\u010do ljudi, ki so se pripravljali na kamenjanje na smrt obsojene pre\u0161u\u0161tnice Marije Magdalene: \u00bbKdor izmed vas je brez greha, naj prvi vr\u017ee kamen vanjo.\u00ab Torej gre\u0161iti je \u010dlove\u0161ko in verjetno vsi kdaj storimo dejanje, pri katerih nehote prizadenemo ljudi, ki si tega ne zaslu\u017eijo. Razumljivo je, da v trenutku prizadetosti pride do impulzivnih besed in reakcij, a zelo pomembno je, da se po \u010dustveni nevihti umirimo ter prisluhnemo iskrenim opravi\u010dilom. Partner, ki je zgre\u0161il, mora biti z opravi\u010dili vztrajen in potrpe\u017eljiv, prizadeta stran pa naj presodi, koliko \u010dasa je vredno partnerja za storjeno napako kaznovati. Kadar kaznovanje traja predolgo, utegne drugi pri\u010deti obupavati in veza gre lahko le \u0161e navzdol. Na prebolevanju morata delati oba.<\/p>\n<h2>Odpustiti ali pustiti?<\/h2>\n<p>Vsakdo ve, kje so njegove meje tistega, kar lahko prenese, preboli ter pozabi. Kadar je bole\u010dina prevelika, se nekaj, kar je bilo prej ljubezen, utegne spremeniti v odtujenost, \u017ealost ali celo sovra\u0161tvo. To vsekakor niso primerni pogoji za zdravo razmerje in marsikdo v tak\u0161nih okoli\u0161\u010dinah veze ne zmore ve\u010d ter enostavno odkoraka stran. \u010ce bi bilo vezo \u0161koda zapraviti in jo je vredno naprej graditi, potem je pretekle stvari dobro pustiti v preteklosti, z njimi opraviti v iskrenem in dolgem pogovoru ter jih nikoli ve\u010d ne omenjati. Nekateri ljudje svoj mir s preteklostjo najdejo \u0161ele takrat, ko partnerju vrnejo milo za drago, vendar je pri tako ma\u0161\u010devalnih potezah potrebno biti previden, saj se lahko izka\u017eejo za dvorezni me\u010d. Pomembno je, da pri odlo\u010ditvi ostanete zvesti sami sebi.<\/p>\n<h2>Kako iti naprej in za vedno pozabiti?<\/h2>\n<p>Po \u010dustvenem viharju je \u010das za razumno razmi\u0161ljanje in iskanje re\u0161itev. \u010ce ste se odlo\u010dili, da boste partnerju odpustili ter z vezo nadaljevali, je najbolj\u0161i prvi korak dolg, intenziven in iskren pogovor. Povejte mu, zakaj in kako mo\u010dno vas je prizadel ter da boste za prebolevanje potrebovali vse njegovo razumevanje ter podporo. Ne po\u010dutite se krive, \u010de jezo in \u017ealost \u010dutite dlje \u010dasa kot pri\u010dakovano. \u010ce se sporni dogodek ne bo ponovil, bo brez dvoma nekega dne bole\u010dina pozabljena.<\/p>\n<h2>Kaj naj stori partner, ki ga je polomil?<\/h2>\n<p>Na partnerju, ki ga je polomil, le\u017ei ve\u010dina odgovornosti, da vezo spet nazaj popravi. Nuditi mora veliko razumevanja, ko partnerja spet prevzamejo trenutki \u017ealosti, pa je na njem, da ga vsaki\u010d znova potola\u017eiti z iskreno in lepo besedo ter z opravi\u010dilom. \u017dal partner, ki ga je polomil, nima pravice drugemu govoriti, kako naj se po\u010duti, zato mora ohraniti potrpljenje tudi, \u010de se njegov partner v sicer sre\u010dnem trenutku naenkrat \u010dustveno ohladi in zapre. Zelo pomembno je, da se sporno dejanje ne ponovi, saj na tak na\u010din partner vedno znova trpi, kar lahko celo privede do njegove otopelosti in do kon\u010dnega razhoda. Vztrajnost z opravi\u010dili in ljubeznijo se bo prej ali slej izpla\u010dala in veza bo ponovno za\u017eivela, preteklost pa bo ostala v preteklosti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kaj storiti, ko ne moreta nazaj v preteklost in spremeniti oziroma izbrisati dogodkov, ki \u0161e danes uni\u010dujejo vajino vezo?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1092],"tags":[1473,1434,3184,3463,1376],"source":[1365,1364,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Ali vajino razmerje uni\u010dujejo stare zamere? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/ali-vajino-razmerje-unicujejo-stare-zamere\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Ali vajino razmerje uni\u010dujejo stare zamere? 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