{"id":358751,"date":"2018-02-08T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2018-02-08T05:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/?p=358751"},"modified":"2018-02-08T06:00:00","modified_gmt":"2018-02-08T05:00:00","slug":"kako-se-naucimo-aktivno-poslusati-partnerja","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/kako-se-naucimo-aktivno-poslusati-partnerja\/","title":{"rendered":"Kako se nau\u010dimo aktivno poslu\u0161ati partnerja?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Aktivno poslu\u0161anje in konstruktivni pogovor<\/h2>\n

Vse preve\u010dkrat se izgubljamo v poplavi informacij in je te\u017eko izlu\u0161\u010diti prave novice, ki bi nam lahko koristile in ki jih sploh zmoremo predelati. Mnogi ljudje mislijo, da znajo poslu\u0161ati, vendar izku\u0161nje ka\u017eejo, da to najve\u010dkrat ni povsem res. Aktivno poslu\u0161anje pomeni, da govornika aktivno in konstruktivno izmenjujeta svoje mnenje. Ko eden govori, ga drugi z poslu\u0161a in medtem \u017ee pripravlja repliko. To pomeni, da trenutnemu govorniku ne sega v besedo in ga pusti, da do konca oblikuje misel ter nato pove tisto, kar \u017eeli povedati. Enako velja tudi obratno, se pravi za drugega govornika.<\/p>\n

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Ljudje ne znamo poslu\u0161ati<\/h2>\n

Na \u017ealost opa\u017eam, da vse preve\u010d ljudi ne zna ve\u010d poslu\u0161ati, zatopljeni smo v svoje misli in v svoj prav ter v pogovoru \u017eelimo nadvladati sogovornika ali pa ga enostavno kar ignoriramo. To vsekakor ni aktivno poslu\u0161anje in lahko navsezadnje vodi v kreg, slabo voljo in nerazumevanje, da ne omenim, da pravo sporo\u010dilo, ki smo ga \u017eeleli posredovati, sploh ni pri\u0161lo do u\u0161es in posledi\u010dno do mo\u017eganov tistega, ki mu je bilo namenjeno.<\/p>\n

Za konstruktivni dialog sta potrebni dve strani<\/h2>\n

Zakaj pi\u0161em o poslu\u0161anju sogovornika? Zelo pogosto se dogaja, da bodisi partnerja med seboj ali star\u0161i do otrok pravijo, da se pogovarjajo med seboj, ko pa se njihova komunikacija preko pogovora pobli\u017eje pogleda, se hitro vidi, da se med pogovorom ne sli\u0161ijo, ne gredo iz svoje obrambne lupine in ne \u017eelijo biti konfrontirani z vsebinami, ki jih druga stran odpira. Zato je komunikacijo zelo te\u017eko za\u010deti, saj sta za konstruktivni dialog potrebni dve strani, ki se zrelo vedeta in se zavedata, da je le preko aktivnega poslu\u0161anja in dogovarjanja mo\u017eno re\u0161evanje te\u017eav, ki se s\u010dasoma nakopi\u010dijo.
\nPri tem je pomembno, s kak\u0161ne pozicije mo\u010di nastopata akterja v komunikaciji, pogovoru. \u010ce se zavedata, da bosta lahko s pogovorom re\u0161ila kak\u0161en problem in si to obe strani enako mo\u010dno \u017eelita, potem se bosta tudi poslu\u0161ali in vrednotili tisto, kar ena in druga stran imata za povedati. To bosta po\u010dela brez slabih namenov, brez zamer in o\u010ditkov.<\/p>\n

Sogovorniku je\u00a0 treba prisluhniti s spo\u0161tovanjem in\u00a0 \u017eeljo, da ga resni\u010dno sli\u0161mo<\/h2>\n

Ko se pogovor sprevr\u017ee v nametavanje o\u010ditkov, ko se za\u010dnejo iz preteklosti vle\u010di stare zamere in nikoli razjasnjene prizadetosti, tedaj to ni ve\u010d aktivno poslu\u0161anje in konstruktivni pogovor temve\u010d je le \u0161e prilivanje olja na ogenj nere\u0161enih te\u017eav.
\nVse zgoraj napisano velja za pogovor med star\u0161i in otroki, velja za pogovor med partnerjema, prav tako pa velja tudi za komunikacijo med prijatelji in ljudmi, ki so si toliko intimno blizu, da jih povezuje skupna preteklost in iz tega izvirajo\u010di nere\u0161eni problemi. \u010ce si posameznik vzame \u010das in \u017eeli doprinesti k resni\u010dno mo\u017eni re\u0161itvi nesporazuma, si bo vzel \u010das in voljo, da bo prisluhnil sogovorniku s spo\u0161tovanjem in \u017eeljo, da ga resni\u010dno \u00bbsli\u0161i\u00ab, ne samo poslu\u0161a. Kajti, vse premnogo krat eden od partnerjev drugega ob na\u010denjanju kak\u0161nega te\u017ejega problema enostavno \u00bbizklju\u010di\u00ab iz dojemanja njegovih besed in zanj predstavlja govorjenje drugega zgolj nekak\u0161en \u0161um.<\/p>\n

Konstruktiven pogovor lahko veliko pripomore k izbolj\u0161anju odnosov<\/h2>\n

Bilo bi zelo lepo in primerno, pa ne zgolj zaradi bontona, da se ljudje med seboj sli\u0161imo, poslu\u0161amo kar nam je namenjeno in smo aktivni pri re\u0161evanju problematike, zaradi katere te\u010de pogovor. Konstruktiven pogovor lahko veliko pripomore k bolj\u0161im odnosom in lep\u0161emu so-bivanju in je eden od del\u010dkov medsebojnega zaupanja, ki tvorijo mozaik na\u0161ih \u017eivljenj.<\/p>\n

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Avtorica prispevka sem univerzitetna diplomirana socialna pedagoginja in diplomirana socialna delavka\u00a0Melita Kuhar<\/strong>, ki vodim projekt\u00a0Svetovalnica<\/strong>,\u00a0www.svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/strong>, dosegljiva sem na tel.\u0161t.\u00a0031 666 168<\/strong>. \u010ce bi se radi naro\u010dili na individualno svetovanje ali me kaj povpra\u0161ali, pi\u0161ite na:\u00a0info@svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Ve\u010d o zgoraj napisanem si lahko preberete tudi socialnem omre\u017eju\u00a0www.facebook.com\/Svetovalnica<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ljudje mislimo, da znamo poslu\u0161ati partnerja, vendar se velikokrat izka\u017ee, da to ni res. 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