{"id":370851,"date":"2018-05-28T08:25:14","date_gmt":"2018-05-28T06:25:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/2018\/05\/28\/zakaj-sva-se-zaljubila-ravno-midva\/"},"modified":"2018-05-28T08:25:14","modified_gmt":"2018-05-28T06:25:14","slug":"zakaj-sva-se-zaljubila-ravno-midva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/zakaj-sva-se-zaljubila-ravno-midva\/","title":{"rendered":"Zakaj sva se zaljubila ravno midva?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"plain\">Zaljubljenost nas preseneti, nas pa tudi na\u0161o okolico. Gre za \u010disto specifi\u010dno do\u017eivljanje, sanjski svet, ki ga nekateri primerjajo z psihoti\u010dnim stanjem, saj je zo\u017een pogled na realnost. Kadar smo zaljubljeni, pozabimo na zunanji svet in tudi ob\u010dutek za sedanjost se spremeni. Takrat se spremenimo in svet okoli nas se zdi druga\u010den. Nenadoma postanemo polni energije in optimizma, o\u010darani, prevzeti, lahko bi rekli, da lebdimo na oblakih.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Zaljubljenci so prepri\u010dani, da so imeli v \u017eivljenju sre\u010do in so na\u0161li pravega \u010dloveka, ki jih do potankosti razume in sprejema. Mislijo tudi, da jih do sedaj \u0161e nih\u010de ni tako ljubil.Tako se nam zdi zato, ker na\u0161 ljubezenski partner odra\u017ea na\u0161e otro\u0161tvo in dopolnjuje na\u0161e manjkajo\u010de dele. Poglejmo si \u0161tiri zna\u010dilne ob\u010dutke pri zaljubljenosti.<\/p>\n<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2018\/05\/profimedia-0373034559-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2018\/05\/profimedia-0373034559-640x320.jpg 660w,https:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2018\/05\/profimedia-0373034559-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>Foto: Profimedia<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b>Prepoznanje<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Zaljubljenca imata ob\u010dutek, kot bi se poznala \u017ee vse \u017eivljenje. To se lahko zgodi \u017ee na prvem zmenku. Ob\u010dutje prepoznanja ustvarja nezavedna podoba star\u0161ev.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b>Brez\u010dasnost<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Zaljubljenca se ne moreta spomniti, kako je bilo, ko se \u0161e nista poznala. Njuni mo\u017egani so sliko ljubljene osebe povezali s sliko star\u0161ev; povezali so preteklost in sedanjost.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b>Ponovna zdru\u017eitev<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Zaljubljenca se po\u010dutita, kot da sta drug v drugem na\u0161la svoj manjkajo\u010di ko\u0161\u010dek.\u00a0 Po\u010dutita se kot ena popolna celota.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b>Nujnost<\/b>\u00a0\u2013 Zaljubljenca postaneta obsedena drug z drugim, ne moreta si predstavljati \u017eivljenja brez ljubljene osebe. Imata ob\u010dutek, da sta kon\u010dno na\u0161la tisto, kar sta iskala vse \u017eivljenje in od sedaj naprej ne bosta ve\u010d osamljena.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><span class=\"heading2\">\u010ce mislimo, da si partnerja prosto izbiramo, si me\u010demo pesek v o\u010di. Zaljubljenost je nezavedna izbira partnerja, ki se sklada s potla\u010denimi deli zaljubljen\u010deve osebnosti. Torej, ko posameznik odkrije del svoje potla\u010dene notranje psihi\u010dne strukture, se hitro zbli\u017ea z osebo, ki mu le to prebuja in se vanjo noro zaljubi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Bolj ko smo ranjeni in slab\u0161a kot je na\u0161a samopodoba, hitreje in bolj noro se bomo zaljubili. Ker na\u0161e rane iz otro\u0161kih let ne izginejo, ampak ostanejo z nami tudi takrat, ko preidemo v obdobje odraslosti. Mi pa znova in znova upamo, da nam jih bodo partnerski odnosi, v katere vstopamo, zacelili.. Na svojo grozo \u010dez \u010das odkrijemo, da so nam samo prebudili bole\u010dine iz preteklosti. In prav te nezavedne vsebine nas pahnejo v poznano sceno, da se zaljubimo v nekoga, ki predstavlja najslab\u0161e lastnosti na\u0161ih star\u0161ev. Zato je na\u0161 partner zelo podoben na\u0161im star\u0161em, to velja tako za pozitivne kot negativne lastnosti, samo da so slednje mo\u010dnej\u0161e. Stari mo\u017egani si poi\u0161\u010dejo ravno to, kar je treba zaceliti. Zato je oseba, ki nam lahko pomaga zaceliti rane podobna tisti, ki nas je ranila.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Samo od take osebe dobimo tisto, kar potrebujemo, da razre\u0161imo svoje rane. Vse to se seveda dogaja nezavedno. Se pravi, da odnose vzpostavimo na podlagi notranjih podob ljudi, ki so imeli najpomembnej\u0161e vloge v na\u0161ih prvih dneh, mesecih in letih.\u00a0\u00a0<b>Zakaj smo z dolo\u010deno osebo, ponavadi ugotovimo \u0161ele tedaj, ko pride do prvih sporov, konfliktov, ki so pogosto ponovitev primarnih odnosov s star\u0161i.<\/b>\u00a0\u010ce ho\u010demo spremeniti ta bole\u010di\u00a0 vzorec, moramo razkriti svoje nezavedne podobe in jih spremeniti. Pri tem nam je lahko v veliko pomo\u010d tudi psihoterapija.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Andrej Omulec<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><strong>Avtorica prispevka, ki ga v originalu najdete\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/psihoterapija-mr.si\/zakaj-sva-se-zaljubila-ravno-midva-.html\" target=\"_blank\">TUKAJ<\/a>, je Marija Rem\u0161kar, doktorandka zakonske in dru\u017einske terapije, ki izvaja individualne, partnerske in dru\u017einske terapije. Za ve\u010d informacij lahko obi\u0161\u010dete njeno spletno stran<\/strong>\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.psihoterapija-mr.si\/psihoterapija.html\" target=\"_blank\">Psihoterapija MR<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Zaljubljenost je lepa in skrivnostna ter je polna hrepenenja in strasti, zato je zaradi svoje dinamike zelo nerazumljiva.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1092],"tags":[2704,2577,1472,1434],"source":[1365,1364,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Zakaj sva se zaljubila ravno midva? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/zakaj-sva-se-zaljubila-ravno-midva\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Zakaj sva se zaljubila ravno midva? 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