{"id":372131,"date":"2018-06-18T08:00:36","date_gmt":"2018-06-18T06:00:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/2018\/06\/18\/vas-partner-spominja-na-vasega-starsa\/"},"modified":"2018-06-18T08:00:36","modified_gmt":"2018-06-18T06:00:36","slug":"vas-partner-spominja-na-vasega-starsa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/vas-partner-spominja-na-vasega-starsa\/","title":{"rendered":"Vas partner spominja na va\u0161ega star\u0161a?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"plain\">V partnerski odnos oziroma v poroko se ljudje podajamo iz razli\u010dnih razlogov. Poleg ljubezni so tu \u0161e\u00a0 ob\u010dutek varnosti; tako \u010dustvene kot finan\u010dne, pritisk dru\u017eine, strah pred osamljenostjo ipd. Po nekaterih raziskavah naj bi se mo\u0161kim s poroko izbolj\u0161ala kakovost \u017eivljenja, medtem ko naj bi se \u017eenskam poslab\u0161ala. Ena od razlag za tak\u0161no stanje je, da \u017eenske \u0161e vedno opravljajo ve\u010dino reproduktivnega dela, ki se jim s poroko \u0161e pove\u010da.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Kakorkoli \u017ee, preden se odlo\u010dimo za poroko oziroma resno partnerstvo, je klju\u010dnega pomena psiholo\u0161ka priprava.<\/p>\n<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" data-src=\"https:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2018\/06\/profimedia-0182850290-320x155.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2018\/06\/profimedia-0182850290-660x320.jpg 660w,https:\/\/zenska.hudo.com\/files\/2018\/06\/profimedia-0182850290-320x155.jpg 330w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 660px) 100vw, 660px\"\/><figcaption>Foto: Profimedia<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p class=\"plain\"><span class=\"heading2\">Preden smo pripravljeni na \u017eivljenje v paru, se moramo soo\u010diti sami s seboj in razre\u0161iti \u010dustvene zaplete iz primarne dru\u017eine. Ali \u010de povemo druga\u010de: od doma moramo oditi tako fizi\u010dno kot psihi\u010dno.\u00a0<\/span>Za razvoj zdravega in kakovostnega partnerstva je nujno, da partnerja drug ob drugem sprejemata odgovornost za svoja \u010dutenja, mi\u0161ljenja, dejanja, do\u017eivljanja.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Na izbiro partnerja imajo mo\u010dan vpliv odnosi, ki smo jih kot otroci imeli s star\u0161i oziroma skrbniki. Star\u0161a sta nedvomno edini osebi v na\u0161em \u017eivljenju, ki sta nezamenljivi in ju nikoli ne moremo izbrisati iz na\u0161e du\u0161evnosti.\u00a0<b>Star\u0161a nikoli ne bosta izbrisana iz otrokovega srca, \u010detudi sta bila nefunkcionalna, zlorabljajo\u010da ali ju otrok sploh ni poznal.\u00a0<\/b>Nih\u010de ne mora zamenjati te vloge.Tako bo na primer o\u010de v h\u010derino srce vedno vpisan kot prvi mo\u0161ki. Od njega pa je odvisno, s katerimi \u010dustvi bo zapisan; ga bo otrok sovra\u017eil, preziral, spo\u0161toval, ob\u010dudoval &#8230; Nezavedno bo h\u010derka na podlagi o\u010detove podobe oziroma njunega odnosa, vedno iskala partnerja. O\u010de da otroku samozavest, ob\u010dutek za tveganje in razsodnost ter vero vase. O\u010de je v naravi tisti, ki otroka brezpogojno ljubi. \u010ce o\u010deta ni, ostane praznina.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">V otrokovem \u017eivljenju je seveda nenadomestljiva tudi mati, tudi ona bo ve\u010dno ostala zapisana v njegovi du\u0161evnosti. Otrok bo \u010dutil, ali je brezpogojno hoten, \u017eelen, ljubljen. Brez ob\u010dutka brezpogojne materinske ljubezni bo imel zelo verjetno te\u017eave v intimnih odnosih.\u00a0 Te\u017eko bo namre\u010d zaupal, da je zares ljubljen, oziroma si to zaslu\u017ei. Strah ga bo \u010dustvene bli\u017eine. Mati bo v sinovo notranje psihi\u010dno strukturo vpisana kot edina \u017eenska, ki je kdaj koli tako globoko prodrla v njegovo intimo. Ta podoba bo vplivala na sinovo izbiro partnerice in na njun odnos. Pomembno je, kak\u0161en odnos sta imela mati in sin. Je bil ta odnos ljube\u010d, ne\u017een, pasiven, sovra\u017een, je bil otrok zanemarjen, ga je mati uporabljala zgolj za dosego lastnih ciljev &#8230; Na temelju teh ob\u010dutji bo sin kasneje vzpostavljal odnose.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><b>Oba star\u0161a v otroku ustvarjata ob\u010dutje ljubljenosti. Njegova notranje psihi\u010dna struktura se prav tako ustvarja na osnovi odnosa med obema star\u0161ema. Odnos med star\u0161ema in odnos star\u0161ev do otroka pogosto dolo\u010da izbiro prijateljev in naravo intimnih odnosov.<\/b>\u00a0Otrok bo namre\u010d v vseh odnosih iskal vzdu\u0161ja, ki so mu poznana od doma. Vsak od otrok dobi osnovne zna\u010dajske poteze v nezavedni komunikaciji preko procesa projekcijske identifikacije, ki poteka med star\u0161i in njegovimi sorojenci. Pri tem se vsak od njih navezuje na en vidik star\u0161evske vezi. Preko projekcijske identifikacije se osebnost otroka poistoveti z dolo\u010denim vidikom star\u0161ev in do\u017eivljanjem njunega odnosa. Ta odnos bo vedno zelo vplival na nadaljnji razvoj in dolo\u010dal vse odnose z drugimi.<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\">Andrej Omulec<\/p>\n<p class=\"plain\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/psihoterapija-mr.si\/vas-partner-spominja-na-va-ega-star-a-.html\" target=\"_blank\">Originalni \u010dlanek najdete na spletni strani\u00a0Marije Rem\u0161kar<\/a>,<\/strong> doktorandke zakonske in dru\u017einske terapije, ki izvaja individualne, partnerske in dru\u017einske terapije. Za ve\u010d informacij lahko obi\u0161\u010dete njeno spletno stran\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.psihoterapija-mr.si\/psihoterapija.html\" target=\"_blank\">Psihoterapija MR<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Partnerski odnos je prilo\u017enost, da bolje spoznamo sami sebe, razre\u0161imo svoje stare vsebine\u00a0 in izkusimo nekaj novega.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1092],"tags":[2577,1689,1472,1473,1434],"source":[1365,1364,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Vas partner spominja na va\u0161ega star\u0161a? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/vas-partner-spominja-na-vasega-starsa\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Vas partner spominja na va\u0161ega star\u0161a? 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