{"id":375582,"date":"2018-08-13T05:05:09","date_gmt":"2018-08-13T03:05:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/2018\/08\/13\/kako-negujemo-pristen-odnos-z-otrokom\/"},"modified":"2018-08-13T05:05:09","modified_gmt":"2018-08-13T03:05:09","slug":"kako-negujemo-pristen-odnos-z-otrokom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/zdrav-duh-telo\/kako-negujemo-pristen-odnos-z-otrokom\/","title":{"rendered":"Kako negujemo pristen odnos z otrokom?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Tole je nekaj namigov, kako oblikovati \u0161e bolj pristne in tople dru\u017einske vezi, zlasti v odnosu do otroka.<\/p>\n

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  1. Odgovarjajte s so\u010dutjem, ne glede na to, kaj boste komentirali<\/strong>. Otroci so v\u010dasih slabe volje in nergavi, pa \u0161e sami ne vedo zakaj. V\u010dasih nehote s svojimi opombami ali vedenjem izzivajo na\u0161o reakcijo ter opazujejo, kako bomo kot star\u0161 reagirali. Bodite pozorni na svoje besede in energijo, ki jo vlo\u017eite v trenutni odnos oziroma situacijo.<\/li>\n
  2. Bodite pozorni na intonacijo in na\u010din, s katerim se pogovarjate v dru\u017eini<\/strong>. Malce pomislite, ali uporabljate ve\u010dinoma umirjeno in toplo, naklonjeno komunikacijo. Ali pa\u010d napadalno? Morebiti ignorirate otroka in mu obrnete hrbet, ko vam nekaj razlaga in isto\u010dasno likate? Kako poslu\u0161ate partnerja? Ga tudi ignorirate, ko vam nekaj \u017eeli sporo\u010diti ali se pa\u010d zainteresirano pogovarjate?<\/li>\n
  3. Spustite vse, kar trenutno delate<\/strong> in se osredoto\u010dite na otroka in to kar vam \u017eeli povedati. Zelo pomembno za otrokovo kasnej\u0161o samopodobo je njegov ob\u010dutek, da je sli\u0161an in da se mu star\u0161 stoodstotno posveti, zlasti ko otroka nekaj mu\u010di ali bi pa\u010d rad izlil svoje skrbi ali ne ve kako razre\u0161iti nesporazum v vrtcu ali \u0161oli. Nikakor otroka v teh redkih in zelo dragocenih trenutkih ne odpravite z besedami: \u00bbdej, se bomo kasneje pogovorili, sedaj vidi\u0161 da nimam \u010dasa, ker moramo pobrati \u0161e sestrico\u00ab ali kaj podobnega. Otrok se po\u010duti ogoljufanega in seveda tega kasnej\u0161ega pogovora ni nikoli. Prilo\u017enost izgubljena ne vrne se nobena.<\/li>\n
  4. Ko vas otrokovo vedenje ali besede prizadenejo, se sku\u0161ajte odzvati ne z jezo temve\u010d poka\u017eite , da ste prizadeti. <\/strong>Jeza je seveda na\u0161a prva impulzivna reakcija, vseeno poskusite sebe umiriti, ne eksplodirati ali celo fizi\u010dno obra\u010dunati z otrokom. Ko se umirite, morebiti pre\u0161tejete do deset v angle\u0161\u010dini in to seveda nazaj, ob tem globoko vdihujte in si s tem pridobite \u010das, da se ustrezno odzovete na izziv, ki ga je pred vas tre\u0161\u010dil otrok s svojim vedenjem ali reakcijo. Ker nas otrok opazuje, predvsem kako bomo reagirali, je zelo pomembno, da odlo\u010dno in asertivno spregovorimo in obrazlo\u017eimo kaj nas je prizadelo in zakaj. Tako, kakr\u0161no bo na\u0161e vedenje v opisani situaciji, je odvisno tudi otrokovo kasnej\u0161e vedenje, saj otrok reagira tako, kot vidi pri nas, star\u0161ih.<\/li>\n
  5. Otroka objemajte, lup\u010dkajte, negujte pristni intimni stik, ko ste v tesnem objemu z njim, \u0161epetajte mu ne\u017ene in ljube\u010de besede<\/strong>. Umirjen zvok na\u0161ega glasu, sr\u010dna ljubezen, ki veje iz nas je tisto, kar otrok potrebuje. S tem mu potrjujemo, da je vreden, za nas poseben in ljubljen tak\u0161en kot je. To je osnovno ogrodje oblikovanja lastne vrednosti, ki bo \u0161e kako pomembna, ko otrok odraste.<\/li>\n
  6. Ko nas izziva s svojim neprimernim vedenjem, mu na starosti primeren na\u010din odlo\u010dno in razlo\u010dno povejte, zakaj nekega vedenja ne dovolite<\/strong>. Postavite mu ogrodje, kaj je dovoljeno in kaj ni. S tem oblikujete varen prostor raziskovanja okolice in odnosov.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Tehle nekaj napotkov je le del nabora<\/strong>, ki ga lahko uporabljamo pri oblikovanju pristnega in iskrenega odnosa. Ker kar kot vzgled mi sami odrasli ponudimo otroku, tak\u0161en bo tudi sam, ko bo odrastel. V veliki meri. Zato, \u010de \u017eelimo imeti kvalitetno razvito osebnost, smo mi star\u0161i tisti, ki prvi sodelujemo pri tej trdni in zdravi postavitvi bodo\u010dega odraslega \u010dloveka. Zato nam mora biti mar.<\/p>\n

    Avtorica prispevka sem univerzitetna diplomirana socialna pedagoginja in diplomirana socialna delavka Melita Kuhar<\/strong>, ki vodim projekt Svetovalnica<\/strong>, www.svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/span><\/strong>, dosegljiva sem na tel.\u0161t. 031 666 168<\/strong>. \u010ce bi se radi naro\u010dili na individualno svetovanje ali me kaj povpra\u0161ali, pi\u0161ite na: info@svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

    Ve\u010d o zgoraj napisanem si lahko preberete tudi socialnem omre\u017eju www.facebook.com\/Svetovalnica<\/a><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Pristnost in intimnost je tisto lepilo, ki ve\u017ee dru\u017einske \u010dlane skupaj. Tudi, ko otrok odraste, nosi s seboj ob\u010dutek, da je ljubljen in sprejet, kar mu pomaga tudi skozi te\u017eka \u017eivljenjska obdobja. Pristnost ob\u010dutimo, \u010detudi je mogo\u010de kdaj ne znamo definirati ali se je takoj zavedati. Je skratka tisti notranji ob\u010dutek, da se po\u010dutimo povezani z drugo, nam drago osebo.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[1427,2867,1408,1409],"source":[1410,1335,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nKako negujemo pristen odnos z otrokom? - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/zdrav-duh-telo\/kako-negujemo-pristen-odnos-z-otrokom\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Kako negujemo pristen odnos z otrokom? - Hudo Slovenija\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Pristnost in intimnost je tisto lepilo, ki ve\u017ee dru\u017einske \u010dlane skupaj. 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