{"id":403085,"date":"2019-07-26T07:59:29","date_gmt":"2019-07-26T05:59:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/2019\/07\/26\/cesa-ne-smes-poceti-na-prvem-zmenku\/"},"modified":"2019-07-26T07:59:29","modified_gmt":"2019-07-26T05:59:29","slug":"cesa-ne-smes-poceti-na-prvem-zmenku","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/cesa-ne-smes-poceti-na-prvem-zmenku\/","title":{"rendered":"\u010cesa NE sme\u0161 po\u010deti na prvem zmenku"},"content":{"rendered":"<figure>\n\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"660\" height=\"320\" src=\"image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAAAAACH5BAEKAAEALAAAAAABAAEAAAICTAEAOw==\" class=\"lazyload\" \/><figcaption>foto:Profimedia<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<h2>Napaka: alkohol za sprostitev<\/h2>\n<p>\u010ce mislite, da vam bo alkohol pomagal pregnati tremo pred prvim zmenkom, potem ste se po\u0161teno zmotili. Alkohol zna iti zahrbten in nikoli ne morete biti gotovi, ali vas bo spravil v dobro voljo ali pa opil ravno dovolj, da se boste za\u010deli obna\u0161ati \u010dudno in na svojo potencialno ljubezen naredili napa\u010den vtis. Na prvih zmenkih je bolje ne tvegati ter se za bolj\u0161i kon\u010dni rezultat alkoholnim pija\u010dam izogniti.<\/p>\n<h2>Izognite se preglasni glasbi<\/h2>\n<p>Najsi gre za preglasno glasbo v lokalu ali za glasno navijanje glasbe v avtu, v vsakem primeru gre za mote\u010d element, ki vama onemogo\u010da normalno ter umirjeno komunikacijo. \u010ce je namen va\u0161ega prvega zmenka to, da osebo spoznate, se je preglasni glasbi vsekakor dobro izogniti. Tudi v primeru, da ji med vo\u017enjo v avtu nimate kaj povedati, svoje ti\u0161ine ne prekrivajte tako, da povi\u0161ate glasnost radia, saj s tem tudi svoji spremljevalki oziroma spremljevalcu vzamete mo\u017enost, da bi spregovoril. Vpiti, da bi preglasil glasno glasbo, pa se bo ljubilo le redko komu.<\/p>\n<h2>Ne govorite le o sebi<\/h2>\n<p>Ena najhuj\u0161ih napak, ki jih lahko storite na prvem zmenku, je ta, da vas trema po\u017eene v govorjenje o sebi. V trenutku, ko se zaveste, da govorite \u017ee nekaj minut, ne da bi ob tem va\u0161 spremljevalec oziroma spremljevalka spregovorila en stavek, se ustavite in ga vpra\u0161ajte kaj o njem.<\/p>\n<p>Enako nevljudno je presli\u0161ati ali ignorirati njegove stavke ter vse skupaj spet obrniti v svojo smer, da spet lahko govorite o sebi ali svoji slu\u017ebi. Na prvem zmenku se osredoto\u010dite tudi na drugo osebo in poskusite pogovore izpeljati tako, da bo koli\u010dina izmenjanih informacij nekako 50:50. \u010ce bo druga oseba govorila zgolj o sebi, je to njen problem. Tudi ko pogovor nanese na vas, ne bodite vzvi\u0161eni in polni samohvale, temve\u010d skromni in realni.<\/p>\n<h2>Ne javljajte se na telefon<\/h2>\n<p>\u010ce kdaj, potem na prvem zmenku ni \u010das, da se javljate na telefon. Poka\u017eite ji, da je v tistem trenutku za vas najpomembnej\u0161a na svetu in je nikar ne pustite \u010dakati. To bo zanjo dober znak, da jo boste v \u017eivljenju postavljali na prvo mesto.<\/p>\n<h2>Ne bodite cmera<\/h2>\n<p>Prvi zmenek ni \u010das za tarnanje o tem, kako neuspe\u0161na je bila va\u0161a prej\u0161nja zveza. Niti ni \u010das za tarnanje o tem, kako v ljubezni nimate sre\u010de. Pa tudi ni \u010das za to, da jamrate o tem, kako ne veste, kaj bi radi, saj s tem dobesedno daste osebi vedeti, da z vami izgublja \u010das.<\/p>\n<p>\u010ceprav marsikdo pomisli, da se s takimi, sicer zelo iskrenimi in intimnimi pogovori nasprotni osebi pribli\u017ea, se velikokrat zgodi, da jo prav s tem odbije. Prvi zmenek je \u010das, ko spoznavate novo potencialno ljubezen in ji dajete prilo\u017enost, zato nikar ne bodite zamorjeni, temve\u010d nasmejani ter polni \u017eivljenja, upanja in pozitive.<\/p>\n<h2>Ne bodite vsiljivi<\/h2>\n<p>Ne pri\u010dakujte, da vam bo oseba na prvem zmenku zaupala svojo celotno \u017eivljenjsko zgodbo. \u010ce opazite, da \u017eeli zaenkrat nekatere stvari obdr\u017eati zase, nikar ne rinite v njo s svojimi vpra\u0161anji, saj so zanjo neprijetna, \u010detudi se vam mogo\u010de zdijo simpati\u010dna ali bistvena.<\/p>\n<p>Poleg vsiljivosti pa lahko va\u0161o novo simpatijo prestra\u0161i tudi hitenje v dolo\u010dene prelomnice, kot je skupno \u017eivljenje, poroka in otroci. Prvi zmenek ni pravi trenutek za tako resne pogovore, saj bi oseba utegnila pomisliti, da i\u0161\u010dete le ustaljeno \u017eivljenje, pa ni va\u017eno s kom. \u010ce ostaneta skupaj, se lahko s tak\u0161nimi pogovori pozabavata tudi kdaj drugi\u010d.<\/p>\n<h2>Ne bodite togi<\/h2>\n<p>Obdobje zmenkov, zlasti obdobje prvih zmenkov, je \u010das, ko lahko poka\u017eete, da se znate zabavati, zato na prvih zmenkih nikar ne bodite togi. \u010ce vam spremljevalec\/-ka predlaga nekaj, \u010desar obi\u010dajno ne bi naredili, premislite dvakrat, preden izstrelite &#8221;ne&#8221;. Tukaj seveda govorimo o stvareh in dejavnostih, ki ne ogro\u017eajo va\u0161ega zdravja ali \u017eivljenja. V svoje pogovore vklju\u010dite tudi spontani humor, naj vam ne bo nerodno. Enostavno poka\u017eite, kdo ste.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Prvi zmenek velikokrat prinese nespro\u0161\u010deno atmosfero in tremo, pa tudi kup napak, ki ne obetajo ni\u010d dobrega za nadaljevanje zveze.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1091],"tags":[2244,3079],"source":[1518,1530,1529],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>\u010cesa NE sme\u0161 po\u010deti na prvem zmenku - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/cesa-ne-smes-poceti-na-prvem-zmenku\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"\u010cesa NE sme\u0161 po\u010deti na prvem zmenku - 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