{"id":58298,"date":"2016-05-28T05:03:00","date_gmt":"2016-05-28T03:03:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/?p=58298"},"modified":"2016-06-05T08:11:02","modified_gmt":"2016-06-05T06:11:02","slug":"zakaj-se-moski-niso-sposobni-custveno-vezati","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/lifestyle\/seks-partnerstvo\/zakaj-se-moski-niso-sposobni-custveno-vezati\/","title":{"rendered":"Zakaj se mo\u0161ki niso sposobni \u010dustveno vezati?"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u010custveno nedosegljivi ljudje so tisti, ki te iz tega ali onega razloga ne morejo in te nikoli ne bodo ljubili tako, kot si \u017eeli\u0161 in zaslu\u017ei\u0161. Vezanje na \u010dustveno nedostopne ljudi je obrambni mehanizem, ki izvira iz strahu, da bi bili prizadeti. Na \u017ealost gre za za\u010daran krog, saj \u010dustveno nedostopni ljudje s seboj najve\u010dkrat prinesejo razo\u010daranje in prizadetost. Z vsakim razo\u010daranjem pa je strah le \u0161e ve\u010dji.<\/p>\n

Zakaj si ne dovoli\u0161 biti sre\u010dna?<\/h2>\n

Ne verjame\u0161, da bi lahko komu zaupala, in si prepri\u010dana, da ljubezen na koncu vedno boli? \u010custveno nedosegljivi ljudje so privla\u010dni predvsem tistim, ki ne upajo verjeti v ljubezen, se ji prepustiti in predvsem ne zaupajo vase, da so vredni ljubezni. Ljudje, ki se bojijo razo\u010daranja, si velikokrat izberejo ravno tiste, ki so \u010dustveno nedostopni, kljub temu, da jim prizadenejo veliko bole\u010din. Izvorov fobije pred zavezanostjo nekomu je precej in so v resnici pomembni le do neke mere. Zveze so posledica na\u0161ih odlo\u010ditev in so take, kot si jih naredimo, zato se ne spra\u0161uj ve\u010d, zakaj te sre\u010da vedno pozabi, ampak, zakaj si ne dovoli\u0161 biti sre\u010dna. Ne izogiba se sre\u010da tebe, ampak se ti izogiba\u0161 sre\u010de. Zato prenehaj prelagati odgovornost za svoje razpadle zveze na druge in se vpra\u0161aj, kaj ti po\u010dne\u0161, da vzdr\u017euje\u0161 to stanje.<\/p>\n

Kako prepoznati \u010dustveno nedostopnega mo\u0161kega?<\/h2>\n

\u010custveno nedostopni ljudje so velikokrat \u0161armantni in se vedno potrudijo, da ustvarijo ravno dovolj dober vtis, da jih ne vr\u017ee\u0161 \u010dez prag. Sploh na za\u010detku dajejo vtis, da si zveze resni\u010dno \u017eelijo. Bodi pozorna na nekaj zna\u010dilnosti, ki so skupne ve\u010dini \u010dustveno nedostopnih ljudi. Si bolj ali manj vedno v negotovosti, kdaj se bosta sli\u0161ala ali videla? Ga le redko uspe\u0161 priklicati na telefon? Ima vedno na zalogi cel kup izgovorov, za katere ve\u0161, da niso vredni po\u010denega gro\u0161a? Se ne \u017eeli vklju\u010diti v tvoje \u017eivljenje in spoznati tvojih prijateljev in dru\u017eine? Te predstavlja svojim prijateljem kot prijateljico in se nikoli jasno ne izrazi o statusu zveze pod pretvezo, da vidva tega ne potrebujeta? Ima rutino, ki je ni pripravljen prilagoditi tebi in vajini zvezi, medtem, ko se ti postavlja\u0161 na glavo, da bi uskladili vajini \u017eivljenji? Sicer pove, da ni pripravljen na zvezo, ampak \u0161e kar vzdr\u017euje vez s tabo? Govori o poroki, ampak res le govori?<\/p>\n

Ne zadovolji se z drobtinami!<\/h2>\n

\u010ce si na ve\u010dino trditev odgovorila pritrdilno, potem ima\u0161 opravka s \u010dustveno nedostopnim \u010dlovekom. \u010custveno nedostopni ljudje obljubljajo veliko, uresni\u010dijo pa bolj malo. Njegova velika potreba po pozornosti (ki mu jo ti namenja\u0161 \u0161e preve\u010d) se ka\u017ee tudi v tem, da je le redko sposoben govoriti in razmi\u0161ljati o \u010dem drugem, kot o sebi. Vsak, ki lovi \u010dustveno nedosegljivo osebo, se zadovoljuje z drobtinami. \u010custveno nedostopne ljudi je strah, da bi bili nadzorovani, zato pretirano nadzorujejo oni.<\/p>\n

Edina oseba, ki jo lahko nadzorujemo in spreminjamo, smo mi sami<\/h2>\n

Kljub vsemu se zgodi, da se tudi \u010dustveno nedostopni ljudje znajdejo v resnih zvezah. Njihovi partnerji so navadno zelo potrpe\u017eljivi ljudje, ki mislijo, da si ne zaslu\u017eijo dosti, in upajo, da bo ljubezen premagala vse ovire. V taki zvezi partnerja ne rasteta in se ne razvijata. Nesposobnost zapustiti \u010dloveka, ki ti ne nudi tega, kar bi ti lahko in bi ti moral (in on\u00a0 se tega zaveda, brez skrbi), mu daje zeleno lu\u010d, da s svojim vedenjem nadaljuje. \u010ce sami s sabo nismo pretirano zadovoljni, bomo velikokrat sprejemali odlo\u010ditve, ki bodo vodile v dodatna razo\u010daranja. Ko vemo, da lahko veliko ponudimo, bomo tudi veliko zahtevali. Le mi in na\u0161 odnos do sebe in drugih je tisti, ki nas vodi do zvez. Edina oseba, ki jo v \u017eivljenju lahko nadziramo in spreminjamo, smo mi sami. \u010custveno nedostopen \u010dlovek se sicer lahko spremeni, a to mora biti njegova \u017eelja. Ne glede na to, kako ljubi\u0161, jih ne bo\u0161 s tem nikoli spremenila. 99 % tak\u0161nih zgodb se sre\u010dno kon\u010da le v filmu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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