{"id":8557,"date":"2017-04-28T04:59:37","date_gmt":"2017-04-28T02:59:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/master.hudo.com\/si\/2016\/03\/24\/otroci-potrebujejo-brezpogojno-ljubezen\/"},"modified":"2017-04-29T08:15:09","modified_gmt":"2017-04-29T06:15:09","slug":"otroci-potrebujejo-brezpogojno-ljubezen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/zdrav-duh-telo\/otroci-potrebujejo-brezpogojno-ljubezen\/","title":{"rendered":"Otroci potrebujejo brezpogojno ljubezen!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Nekateri star\u0161i vneto pravijo, kako imajo njihovi otroci na metre razli\u010dnih dragih cunjic in na tone igra\u010d, ki pa ne pomenijo otroku ni\u010d v primerjavi s tem, kar \u017eeli prejeti od star\u0161ev \u2013 torej izpolnjene zgoraj na\u0161tete tri otrokove potrebe. In seveda \u010das, pozornost, skrb, nego, igranje ter meje in dogovore, ki jih otrok potrebuje za varno raziskovanje okolja<\/strong>. Vedno povem, da svojo h\u010di neizmerno in brezpogojno ljubim. In ji zato dajem trdne meje, v okviru katerih se lahko varno in zdravo razvija. O\u010ditno deluje, saj sem sedaj mama sedemnajstletnice, ki postaja razmi\u0161ljujo\u010da, inteligentna, so\u010dutna, samozavestna in odlo\u010dna mlada \u017eenska, ki ve, kaj si \u017eeli in \u010desa no\u010de, ter zna to tudi na primeren na\u010din sporo\u010diti okolju. Tudi meni, ki se v\u010dasih tudi lovim v svoji star\u0161evski vlogi, saj mi h\u010di zna povedati kak\u0161no modrost, ki smo jo mi odrasli nekako po poti \u017eivljenja izgubili<\/strong>. In to mi zopet potrdi, da je potrebno na\u0161 nara\u0161\u010daj dobro poslu\u0161ati, ko nam ho\u010de nekaj dopovedati.<\/p>\n

Kako naj torej damo otroku na\u0161o brezpogojno ljubezen, \u010de je mi sami nikoli nismo prejeli?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Smo v stiski, ker jo \u017eelimo naprej delegirati otroku, a ne vemo, kako, saj nimamo izku\u0161nje s tem. Namre\u010d, mnogi star\u0161i kot otroci niso bili dele\u017eni ljube\u010de vzgoje, ki bi vklju\u010devala elemente brezpogojne ljubezni. Bila je bolj vzgoja trde roke, zlorab, morebiti nasilja razli\u010dnih oblik, alkohola (ki je zelo pogost vzrok bole\u010dim izku\u0161njam), ignorance otroka in podobnih zlove\u0161\u010dih oblik vzgojne zanemarjenosti, s katero se sedaj odrasla oseba bori in po navadi \u017eeli biti bolj\u0161i star\u0161, kot so bili njihovi star\u0161i. Sicer je tudi res, da nekateri star\u0161i nehote ponovijo vse vzorce svojih star\u0161ev in tako nadaljujejo generacijsko \u00bbprekletstvo\u00ab. Upam, da ga bodo znali prekiniti pravo\u010dasno ter omogo\u010diti novim generacijam bolj ljube\u010de dru\u017einsko okolje.<\/p>\n

Saj poznate tisti \u017ealosten stavek: \u00bbMene ni moj o\u010de\/mama nikoli pobo\u017eal\/a in stisnil\/a k sebi, zato jaz ne vem, kako pobo\u017eati in objeti svojega otroka\u00ab. To je za marsikoga zelo te\u017eko, saj nima osebne izku\u0161nje in je zaznamovan s pomanjkanjem ljube\u010de pripadnosti. A vseeno bom trdila, da se to lahko z ljubeznijo do sebe spremeni<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Namre\u010d, ko sebi damo oziroma k sebi usmerimo svojo lastno brezpogojno ljubezen, postajamo bolj ne\u017eni, ljube\u010di, trd in na videz brezsr\u010den oklep se za\u010denja topiti<\/strong>. Vztrajajmo pri odlo\u010ditvi, da se sprejmemo in ljubimo. Da, to je odlo\u010ditev!<\/strong> In odlo\u010dimo se, da sprejmemo tudi vse lastne pomanjkljivosti in napake. Odlo\u010dimo se, da gremo kljub notranjim oviram in bole\u010dini naprej, k lastni ljubezni. Jeza in razni izgovori nam ne pridejo ve\u010d na pamet, saj smo usmerjeni k ljube\u010di pozornosti, do sebe in do drugih. Tako bo tudi otrok dele\u017een va\u0161e ljubezni. Za\u010del se bo tudi sam odpirati. \u00bbPrekletstva generacij\u00ab bo tako z va\u0161o odlo\u010ditvijo konec. Na tak\u0161en na\u010din se lahko za\u010denja novo obdobje ljube\u010dih odraslih, ki jim bo samoumevno svojim otrokom predati brezpogojno ljubezen. Menim, da se zelo izpla\u010da!<\/p>\n

Avtorica prispevka sem univerzitetna diplomirana socialna pedagoginja in diplomirana socialna delavka Melita Kuhar<\/strong>, ki vodim projekt Svetovalnica<\/strong>, www.svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/span>, dosegljiva sem na tel.\u0161t. 031 666 168<\/strong>. \u010ce bi se radi naro\u010dili na individualno svetovanje ali me kaj povpra\u0161ali, pi\u0161ite na: info@svetovalnica.si<\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n

Ve\u010d o zgoraj napisanem si lahko preberete tudi socialnem omre\u017eju www.facebook.com\/Svetovalnica<\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Da bi star\u0161i iz otroka \u00bbnaredili\u00ab samozavestno in odgovorno, ljube\u010do osebo, mora imeti majhen otrok izpolnjene tele tri izjemno pomembne postavke: brezpogojno star\u0161evsko ljubezen, sprejetost na\u0161ega \u00bbmladi\u010dka\u00ab to\u010dno tak\u0161nega kot je ter oblikovanje varnega zavetja v dru\u017einskem okolju.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[1427,1409],"source":[1410,1335,1334],"supertag":[],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"\nOtroci potrebujejo brezpogojno ljubezen! - Hudo Slovenija<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/hudo.com\/si\/zdrav-duh-telo\/otroci-potrebujejo-brezpogojno-ljubezen\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"sl_SI\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Otroci potrebujejo brezpogojno ljubezen! 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